Not living anymore

[Hopeful]

I had a mis-mc on June 1st this year and this cycle we really thought I was pg...
I had it all, nausea, cramps straight after O (to the extent I needed a hot water bottle & was tempted by painkillers), tiredness, mood swings, depression, late period...all availing to nothing but a heavy and painful period...and lots and lots of tears..even DH cried when i told him I had my period.

Every cycle has been more or less like this since the D&C, only this one was much more pronounced.
To top it all, when I do get my period it lasts 7 days!

So I have 1 week free of cramps during the month

I'm at the end of what i can stand...I think it's because I was so sure I was pg and I'm taking it very hard that I'm not. Nothing has taste in life for me anymore, I just want to start living again but I don't know how.

I fanyone has any practical advice on how to hang in there please share.

thanks.

[Yorkiegirl]

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[gothicmama]

don't know how to help you I remeber feeling like you do I think I accepted Iif I didnot get prg and it all went from there but it is horrible when you think you are adn I remeber feeling like that every month - it does get better it is just hard at the mo because it is all so fresh

[fisil]

I agree to see you GP. Tell her about how you are feeling too. The best advice I had with my mc and getting over it was that any way in which you respond is the right way. Getting pg again after mc was a complete nightmare. And if it is any consolation, the 1st trimester has been a complete nightmare for me too. It is a horrible thing to go through, which is why you should keep talking, never feel shy to ask your partner, GP, best friend, mum etc. for advice or a patient ear. Big hugs.

[MINNIE1]

Hopeful,
My heart goes out to you as i am feeling the same as yourself lately !!! We would have been PG together and you too had a d&c..
I think i PG every cycle but have to put up with a painful period and the really gets me in the dumps.. I think also that i really want a baby that i get fustrated when my period arrives..
All i can say is i know what your going through and its so hard at time's.. I am on the trying to conceive board and find there is great support there for when your period arrives..
If i could i would tell you how to hang in there but i'm in the same boat as your self, so if you need a chat i'll be here..

[homemummy]

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I too had a miscarriage in June and my cycles following the D&C were much like you described. It makes the pain of not being pregnant much worse when you've got to suffer a heavy, painful period.

I went to my docotr but he was very unsympathetic. I am still pleased I went though as I now have it documented in my notes and if I had to go back again, I'd be seen as persistent, and hope they'd check out my hormone levels.

Everyone will tell you that it takes time for your body to get back to normal after a miscarriage but it was of little comfort to me. I hope it is a comfort to you and if it is any consollation, my last AF (5th cycle after m/c)did indicate a turn for the better.

6 weks ago I started to take 50mg of vitamin B6 and a B50 timed release complex. I feel that these have helped to regulate my hormones. You could do some research in this area and see if taking a vitamin supplement could help you.

Hugs to you and your husband. It's not easy but it does get better.