Anyone else lost a loved one this weekend?

[CakeandFineWine]

Hi all

Had a terrible weekend as I've sat with my Grandma who sadly passed away this morning at 4.50.
Grat bank holiday huh?

Anyone else lost someone this weekend and fancy a cry/chat over a virtal drink?

jane

[babyblue2]

I haven't lost anyone but you have my condolences. I'm still not over the loss of my gran and that was 8 years ago

[munchkinmum]

Not in same boat thankfully but wanted to send love and condolences at this sad time for you.

Munchkinmumxxx

[nickytwotimes]

sorry to hear the rotten news, cake. it was my dad's anniversary on sunday - 2 years - so we were all sad too. it does get easier, i promise.

[CakeandFineWine]

Oh thank you!
I thought there would be more ppl but I guess maybe its just me who feel the need to come on mumsnet in a situation like this

[nickytwotimes]

cake, i was on here the other day asking for good vibes, so you are not the only one who does this!!

[ChipButty]

Was bereaved 3 weeks ago today - lost my darling Dad. So sorry to hear your bad news.

[BreeVanDerCamp]

Custy headed North this weekend to see her Mum, she found her dead and she had been dead for a few weeks. I can't stop thinking about her.

[CakeandFineWine]

Thanks Chip
Likewise my condolances, its bloody crap isn't it?

[lulumama]

am very sorry to hear that ( is that you figgy? ) it must have been a blessing though to have been with her for those last moments x

[CakeandFineWine]

Hi lulu
Yeah its me!
I guess it was a blessing in one sense but I can't get over how long and horrific it all was I've sat with her all weekend!!

[lulumama]

bless you figgy

it is very difficult and traumatic when you have to do something like that....be kind to yourself for a while, make sure you grieve and let out all the emotions you are feeling x

[ChipButty]

The best thing people have told me is not to care what other people are thinking. We each experience grief in different ways, so don't worry - you have to do what feels right for you. Keep talking - it really helps to let out what you are feeling inside.

[Lullabyloo]

(((((((hugs))))))))) for you Cake.
I'm so sorry

I found out today..through starting another thread that my darling cousin who I have searched for & missed so terribly for years has died.
I have spent years imagining being reconciled with him..we grew up together in very traumatic circumstances & were very close.
Knowing now that that will never happen,that I will never have one of his big bear hugs again,hear his infectious laughter,have him meet my little boy..has broken my heart.
I am in pieces,have cried so much that I have a blistering headache & poor ds has had a miserable day.
Tomorrow I have to try & find answers to my questions & find out how & why he died & where he is now.
I cant bear to think that he's not out there somewhere...

[CakeandFineWine]

lullabyloo how sad for you after all that effort...... family dynamics make situation like this so much worse don't they,
my own father (my grandmothers son) genuienly couldn't have given a crap when we rang him I'm sure she was trying to hang on for him which would explain why it was so long & horrific only we all knew he wasn't going to be coming!

[KathH]

Not this weekend but one of mine & dh's closest friends died on Tuesday. He was 40. Cant believe we'll never see him again

[lulumama]

lully


oh sweetheart, how awful

wish i could say something more meaningful x

[Lullabyloo]

oh lovely...thats awful & so sad
My Nan lingered & lingered too because she was afraid to leave my mother(my mother had begged her not to die)
I held her hand & almost gave her permission to go & then she just went peacefully.

[CakeandFineWine]

Arh thats so nice, its awful but we were almost begging her to give up last night after 48 hours of watching that & I don't think I'll ever be able to think of it as peaceful

[Lullabyloo]

oh lovely

[Aufish]

Oh Lully, I have just read the post that I posted on the other day only to find out there was bad news for you. I am truly, truly sorry for your loss, I don't know really what to say. Big hugs to you and your DS.

[Lullabyloo]

Thankyou Aufish...I think I understand now what it means to be broken hearted

I have had to ring funeral directors,crematoriums,registry offices etc to try & find out what happened...why & how he died.
I cant bear to think that he was alone & in trouble & couldn't come home.
When things were bad at least we had each other...it seems he died alone...and it's tearing me apart.
He was my soul mate & I will forever miss him..

[Aufish]

Lully I wish I could give you a hug, I have two friends like you describe, one male who I lived and then lived across the road from with until I was 7 years old and my female friend who I have known since the age of 4, they both know the real me inside and out and if something happened to either one of them I would be devastated.

[Lullabyloo]

Thanks honey

[jhyesmum]

Hi, I hope you don't mind me dropping in.

My mum died on 21st May. We laid her to rest yesterday.

I miss her so much.

I'm always up for a good cry at the moment.

[Lullabyloo]

oh sweetheart I'm so,so sorry
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