Counsellling after losing a parent?

(5 Posts)
DooWhop Sat 29-Oct-16 21:51:08

Has anoyone done this? Lost my da din January and its gettting harder. Don't think it hit me until the summer and now I just miss him so so much.
I'm gonna try counselling but not had bereavement counselling before. No idea what it might achieve. I miss dad. He's gone. End of!?

MyKidsDriveMeBonkers Sat 29-Oct-16 22:18:52

I had bereavement counselling after I lost my dad nearly 5 years ago.

I tried to bottle things up and carry on in the initial aftermath (I had two very young children, and my husband wasn't particularly supportive or helpful with my grieving...) but 18 months later, I fell apart. My marriage was being affected and I was struggling to get through each day.

I contacted Cruse and saw a counsellor though then. I did have lots of issues that I needed to talk through, as my relationship with my dad was quite complicated. It did help to talk it through with someone completely independent and she also helped me see things differently and to understand why my husband's actions in the aftermath of losing my dad might have been justified.

I was a bit sceptical about whether it would help, but I felt it did. In fact I think it might have helped salvage my marriage at a time when things were very shaky...

Sorry for your loss, but I can reassure you that things do get easier. You have to give it time (which I know is very hard...), but please do seek help if you feel you do need support. Don't leave it as long as I did!!

Pleasemrstweedie Sat 29-Oct-16 22:23:18

Another vote for Cruse. They have been tremendously helpful after the death of my mother.

yesterdaysunshine Sat 29-Oct-16 22:25:05

I can't say whether counselling will help or not but I think the first year is very hard and as the first anniversary approaches its often the most difficult part IME.

DooWhop Sun 30-Oct-16 13:39:03

Thanks all. I didn't think of Cruse how silly of me! Ive found a private one recommended by a relative.

I hope it helps my marriage is messy too and mostly down to me and my head.

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