Hi, my mum passed away very unexpectedly and suddenly two days ago. I'm not from here, and am planning to go back to my own country with my two girls next week which involves a very long flight.
We recently went back for a month as I'm currently on maternity leave, and eldest DD (3) had a great time and loved spending time with her granny. She refers to my parents' house as granny's house since then.
The thing is, I'm going to have to tell her we're going back, and that we're going to granny's house. So she's going to think she's going to see granny (just last week she told me she was missing granny), but obviously she won't be.
So how do I handle this? Should I tell her that we're going to granny's house but that granny won't be there before the flight, or not mention anything about my mum until we get there? Her nursery have recommended some books to help her understand what's going on, but I really have no idea when I should tell her. The flight is very long - 13 hours, and I'll be doing it solo with her and the baby, so on the one hand I want to tell her beforehand so that she's prepared not to see granny, but on the other hand I don't want to tell her in case she gets all upset on the flight.
Sorry, rambling now. I'm just trying to do what's best for DD whilst making sure I keep it together for myself.
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fflonkl · 29/09/2016 15:26
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