I've just heard that DSDad has died, totally out of the blue and at the far end of the country, miles away from my DM.
ATM we don't know much but DS has been told and is more in shock than anything else- he's 12 and has never suffered a bereavement before. He wants to go to DM who he is very close to but I don't think that will help. My stiff upper lip says that he should continue at school, clubs etc while we wait for more information, and that perhaps his grief is the last thing my DM needs. OTOH, perhaps he would be a distraction (I'm fairly certain he ranks as her second favourite person in the world)
So now we're waiting for DH to come home and it's all a bit surreal. I've just hung up the laundry which is such a totally normal thing to do that it feels a bit mercenary. DS needs to eat but says (for probably the first time in his life) that he's not hungry. Do I force the point (he will not cope well if he's hungry!) decamp to McDonald's or just let it be? Do we sit down and watch tv, continue with the normal rounds of homework and music practice or what?
I'm so utterly clueless that I feel like a small child, at the time when I actually need to be the most grown up I've ever been
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How to help DC deal with a sudden death?
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Gallopingthundercunt · 19/09/2016 18:03
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