Lemon's Mum

[lemonzest123]

Hi MNers,

Thanks for tipping me off about the message limit on my other thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2725008-Would-any-MNers-be-able-to-help-tonight?pg=1&order=

I am stunned and unbelievably humbled to see that one little post I wrote sparked 1000 messages, and Im so appreciative of all you personal stories and jokes to cheer me up.

MN is offically amazing and you're all fantastic.

DM had a rough night, she apparently woke in the night with a bad headache which I think confirmed the disease has moved into her head (we expected this, apparently what's causing the paralysis often appears in the brain too). Still no appetite and sleeping all the time.



Hope everyone had a good night. I had yet more nightmares - theyre all about Mum and they all horrible. Shouty I is in fine voice this morning. Dad said he heard Shouty I bellowing to Shouty II to shut up the other day. Pot, meet kettle

[reddotmum]

Good afternoon Lemon just up myself after a nightshift. Myself and couple colleagues are following your story and sending lots of positive thought to u and ur mummy. We have begun to give our patients affectionate names in honour of Shouty and the crew. Much love to u and ur family. Xx

[lemonzest123]

Ah that's so kind reddot, what do you do? X

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Hello my lovely, sorry to hear your mum had a rough night. I'm not at all surprised to hear you've been having nightmares, the stress and exhaustion of this situation has to come out somewhere.
Are you with mum today? she must find it a great comfort knowing all here nearest and dearest are with her, and you have been so strong and brave.
Wishing you a peaceful day m'dear x

[saffronwblue]

Hope today is calm for you both.

[bookbook]

ah, thats a real downer.
You can always keep going while you think there is hope. The real strength is keeping going when you know there isn't.
So my thoughts with you and your Mum ( and Dad)
I had a horrid nights sleep - miles too warm, so feel a bit thick headed today.
Luckily I'm retired, so can take it easy today. But I like to do something so as its so hot I went down to my allotment and picked shedloads of runner beans, courgettes and raspberries, and I got given a lovely bunch of old fashioned chrysanths from an old man who has a plot near me .
And of course, I shall end up making soup and sorting fruit and veg :)

[P1nkP0ppy]

It's so hard when she's in pain and you can't do anything other than be there, isn't it?
I'm hardly surprised that you're having nightmares Lemon, the stress levels must be off the scale.
💐 🍫 🍷 ☕️ whatever helps a little.
I'm afraid I might starting a similar journey with a family member and, oh god, it's bringing back memories of feeling utterly incompetent and impotent, so I do know how you feel.
Hugs and very much thinking of you.

[2anddone]

Hi Lemon sorry to hear your mum had a rough night hope the shouties give her a bit of peace today and keep quiet!!

[TheLastHeatwave]

Lemon

(I've name changed between threads)

It's unsurprising you're having nightmares, your brain is processing SO much, but it's so hard not to have anytime when you are not thinking about it 💐

Have they given your Mum anymore steroids?

Does she like/can she eat grapes? The Candyfloss flavoured ones are in season at the moment, they're quite unusual - nice for a change & surprise.

[lemonzest123]

bookbook thats sounds gorgeous! DP and me are hatching a plan to ditch london and move to the South West where he is and have a converted barn with a huge vegetable patch.

That was the cheesy gift I got him that I mentioned the other day, and engraved keyring with the name of the barn that we made up for the keys to go on one day.

Urgh last night was gross wasnt it! Every time DP rolled over to cuddle me I was like ewwwwww. I love you but no. Opened window and welcomed 5000 daddy long legs into my room.

What kind of soup? When I had my veg patch at ex's I used to make celery and courgette. Sounds like a blandfest but was so nice! Am so impressed with the food in Mum's home, all the food including soup and cake is homemade. Todays in carrot and coriander and smells lush.

Yep grumpy Im with Mum now. Shes sleeping but Im going to try and feed her a bit in a mo.

Just realised ALL the Shoutys and Coughy shut up at lunch time!! That's the solution, just keep pouring jam roly poly down them!

[Goingtobeawesome]

I'm not posting much but I do think of you throughout the day, Lemon .

[avocadosweet]

So sorry to hear your mum had a bad night. Hope they have adjusted her painkillers for her headache. Poor you having nightmares. Hang in there, you're doing an amazing job supporting your mum and the rest of your family. Hoping for a quiet day for you. x

[boobyooby]

Hi Lemon, just wanted to let you know I'm still here too .... have managed to sleep the last couple of nights (even in the heat!!) so not been very active on here xx

[kelper]

Thinking of you still Lemon

What on earth are candyfloss grapes?!

[reddotmum]

I'm an intensive care nurse Lemon so sadly our patients don't get as animated as your moms housemates.

[janaus]

Thinking of you. Play your mums favourite songs to her.
Keep the fluids up. She will be resting comfortably. Bless you

[janaus]

P.S. Everybody, how hot is too hot in UK? I am in Aus.
Spring, here, but feels more like winter. Be good when this rain stops.

[BathshuaSpooner]

Hi, honey..been thinking of you and your family. Sorry you all had a tough night. Your plan for a converted barn with garden sounds lovely! I have a similar thought for when my last child flies the coop. Mine also includes a pony and pig. Sending huge hugs for today..xx

[Allatseainthemidlands]

Hi Lemon I'm hoping you're having a quiet day after such a rough night. These vigils- the days and nights and evenings of waiting are so difficult. The emotional intensity and exhaustion is so hard to cope with, and it's horrible to have nightmares thrown in on top. I was praying for you and your mum in our morning service today. For peace and the certainty of love all around you both. I'm all in favour of ditching the big bad city- we left 20 years ago and we've never regretted it. And nothing quite like home made soup- we play 'soup guess' - (what a wild life I lead) my DDs have to guess exactly what's gone in- they've got quite good over the years at identifying different herbs and spices and unexpected bits of veg.
Next up cleaning out the fridge and grocery shopping - and slaying the email dragon of course...

[lemonzest123]

reddot I cant tell you how much I appreciate what you do. Inreally think that all healthcare staff from the consultants down to the ladids who bring the tea are just so brilliant. Genuinely wonderful people.

I fed her loads actually. Its all purreed so indistinguishable moosh but smells and tastes ok. And she had a double helping of ice cream.

I brought her in some old pictures, us when she had massive hair and oictures off all our old pets.

DP wrote her a card saying "Im sorry you're so unwell and my thoughts are with you and your family. Please dont worry about Lemon because I will look after her and I love her very much". I read it to her and she smiled.

[lemonzest123]

midlands thanks for your prayers, soup game sound brilliant! Taragon is the one flavour I can never identify.

[boo2410]

Hi Lemon, another hot one here, hope you are coping with it as much as you can. Lovely card from your DP, no wonder your DM smiled. Thinking of you all.

[lemonzest123]

AIBU to think I'm never going to be able to get married now? Was just reading that indearingly hilarious Mumzilla thread and thinking how shit it would be getting married without your Mum there.

[tessiegirl]

Hi lemon, I'm still following your last thread and wanted to pop over here too. Still thinking of you and your mum

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Ah Lemon, I'm a mum and I know that if I were at the end of my life, nothing would comfort me more than knowing my baby girl (soppy) was happy and I would like to think she would carry on to have a great life, full of love and adventure, it's part of why we have children and it's our job to try and equip them for all the hurdles ahead, I reckon your mum did this job well.
I hope you are all coping with this insane heat and you manage to get some sleep tonight, free of nightmares.

[Allatseainthemidlands]

Hi lemon I married without my mum there- she had died 7 years earlier. Harder than that was getting pregnant and knowing my children would never meet her. BUT you will have her constantly in your heart- around you in memories and pictures and daft little family stories and sayings. Losing people like this is unspeakably awful - just horrible- but good things- like weddings and babies- keep on happening too. You will know, when your mum does go, that you did everything possible for her, and that will mean the sadness is not weighted with guilt or regret. We're all holding you in our thoughts