Anxiety while grieving

(12 Posts)
alazuli Fri 09-Sep-16 20:35:26

Ever since my mum died a few months ago I can't stop feeling incredibly anxious and worrying about everything. In a way it stops me thinking about it because I just fret about other stuff. Has anyone else experienced this too?

peachescreatures Fri 09-Sep-16 20:43:32

Yes. My oldest friend died suddenly and for a while after the world seemed like a terrifying place.

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Darwinisafish Sat 10-Sep-16 22:20:44

Yes, I am the same. My mum died 3 months ago. I keep checking everything too, the door locks, the taps, the cooker. I was the same when my dad died several years ago. At least this time I recognise what's happening, it does not make it any easier though.

Potentialmadcatlady Sat 10-Sep-16 22:23:57

Yes me...badly..to the extent that I'm on meds and don't really like going out unless I have too...

INeedANameChange Sun 11-Sep-16 22:56:35

I did. I still have anxiety a year on but it's medicated and less severe now, for the most part.

If it's been a few months then it may be worth a chat with your GP.

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mum too and it's awful flowers

LuckyBitches Mon 12-Sep-16 12:29:40

I tend to feel anxious all the time anyway, but I was particularly skittish after my brother died. It didn't seem that logical at the time, since he died of cancer and I was worrying about accidents, but that's the mind for you!

Anxiety is very treatable, if it gets too much.

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YouCanShoveYourOtherGranny Mon 12-Sep-16 21:57:23

totally. just lost my best friend and my anxiety is at it's highest now, but I remember it was like this after losing a parent, and calmed down after a while. Have to find coping mechanisms methinks. So sorry for your loss.

maisiejones Mon 12-Sep-16 21:57:24

I think that when your mum dies, no matter how old you are, the world doesn't seem a safe place any more. I had terrible anxiety to the point that I couldn't wait to get home as my house was the only place I felt secure. I ended up on Citalopram which helped a bit. Give yourself time. A few months is nothing considering how long you had her there with you.
Hugs. 💐

alazuli Tue 13-Sep-16 01:31:25

thanks for all your support, ladies, and sorry about your losses. i was incredibly anxious before she died too and was battling cancer. maybe my brain just doesn't know how to switch that off. it feels like i'm slightly addicted to worrying if that makes sense.

also i feel a bit like i'm suffering from PTSD and anxiety is one of the main symptoms. i've been going to see a therapist and that's been helping a lot.

big hugs to you all x

bumbleclat Fri 16-Sep-16 05:53:30

So sorry about your mum flowersI lost my mum in the summer and have been experiencing lots of anxiety with my grief too.
It's horrible. Mine is manifesting in
A)the need to sleep with the light on
B) waking up all hours through the night usually feeling gripped by fear
C) worrying about my own death and that of my husband/sister/dad
D) wondering if any pain I have is cancer
E) overworking at work
F)bad dreams about my mum and how she was towards the end
It's truly horrible to never feel well rested or relaxed.
I hope I can one day.

babbafishbabe Fri 16-Sep-16 06:23:40

Me too. T mum died 2 years ago and I'm still on meds. She was my other rock.... I've got a disabled DS and she was the one who always made me feel like I could do it, even whe things were really difficult. She made me feel special most of the time. I'm just about to spend my 40th birthday without her and even now I feel anxious !

alazuli Fri 16-Sep-16 18:30:14

bumbleclat - so sorry to hear that. i don't dream about my mum as much as i'd like to but whenever i do i can only see how she was towards the end. sad that's the only way i remember her. she was sick for so long that when i look at pictures of her healthy it's like she was another person. i also have flashbacks of her dying. it's horrible.

babbafishbabe - happy 40th! i just had my first birthday without my mum and it was heartbreaking for me. i cried so much. i hope you have a better day than i did!

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