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Bereavement

my dad died suddenly 13 weeks ago

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:26

my dad was found dead in bed on 30th May 2016. we buried him 13weeks ago today. i still struggle to find words...

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:34

and that day didnt just shake my world...it crumbled it. in a way that i am hugely struggling to just be me...

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sonlypuppyfat · 31/08/2016 06:38

I'm so sorry for your loss my own dad died very suddenly it's awful

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Strawclutching · 31/08/2016 06:48

I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you thought about any grief counselling it must be so shocking?

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HmmmHashtag · 31/08/2016 06:49

I lost a parent very suddenly, it's very traumatic as well as devastating. Time will help, over the years it gets easier. In the meantime, counselling would really benefit, perhaps Cruse Bereavement or a local therapist, or even call the Samaritans.

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:50

i did yea but couldnt go thru with it when it came to turn up...

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:51

i never even browsed Mumsnet website before

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:53

a mate of mine suggested this website when i came back from the nightmare our half term holiday turned put to be...and now all of a sudden im so glad to get these messages

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 06:54

the main thing im struggling with is anger...a huge angry feeling towards myself mainly, and then towards my mother

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Evergreen17 · 31/08/2016 07:11

Scarlett so very sorry. My dad died very suddenly in a terrible accident 10 years ago now.

It gets easier but I miss him everyday.

I went through all stages. Anger, sadness, guilt, honestly I can't say anything to make it easier because it is not easy.

I will say that one thing I did was I got braver. So if I was scared of am interview or a move or something I will be like well, been through the worst and well I will do this for dad.

It took a while to get there though. The first year I just cried.

If you can do talk to people because you get it out of your chest.

I wrote him letters and then threw them away. That helped.

So sorry OP

Try to let go of the anger first or use the anger to get all these emotions out. Go on a walk.

So sorry

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Longtalljosie · 31/08/2016 07:13

I'm so very sorry to hear about your Dad.

Can you say why you're angry with your mum and with yourself?

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 08:32

thank you for all these lovely messages

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 08:38

yes i too find myself writing endless letters, some of them i keep some of them i shred right away

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ScarlettD · 31/08/2016 09:13

i dont know how many of you are single parents....when suddenly we aint as strong as we thought we were anymore...all i can think of is a house without what it stood on. cos that all of a sudden just crumbled.