Hi all
I'm not sure why I'm posting really. I seem to be coping although I get the odd very hard wobble and I'm worried that I may be in shock still.
Dad was in hospital for a month, came home for a day and then had to be rushed back in. We were all there for when he died, (my Mum and all my siblings), so for that I'm hugely grateful. He had a good and quite long life (he was 84) but in the last year or so was declining in health and mobility (heart/kidney and leg issues). He wasn't terribly ill until he had the heart failure/attack that killed him. He never wanted to be a burden (not that he would have been)and was getting upset that he couldn't do things anymore, like his beloved gardening. I think he may have 'checked out' especially knowing that we were all there- and that rarely happens as a few of us kids work abroad a fair bit. I actually felt pleased for him when it happened, as it was almost like a movie scripted ending, (if you see what I mean) and I know that he didn't want to continue living and be immobile and on oxygen, etc. He was so active as a younger man and his ageing definitely affected him adversely in recent years.
I seem to be trying to remember every little thing I possibly can of things we did when he was alive- is this a normal reaction? His funeral is in 10 days or so- I guess I may feel differently that. What do people feel like after the funeral - does it get harder?
Thanks for listening all.
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My Dad died a week ago. How do folks feel after the funeral?
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MmmCuriouSir · 22/03/2016 17:27
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