Mother's Day ideas for recently bereaved friend

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

Hello wise mumsnetters. My friends mum died very suddenly last week. I can't imagine how hard she will find Mothers Day this year. Does anyone have any ideas of what I can do to help?

[PurpleDaisies]

I would text her saying you know this weekend will be hard for her and does she want company? You could stick a film on and pretend it isn't mothers' day. She might just want to be alone.

You sound like a lovely friend.

[Gazelda]

Difficult. She may want to blank it out completely, or it may be a day she would be especially appreciative of people acknowledging her pain.

I think, if it were me, I'd text her in the morning to see how she is. Tell her you're thinking of her and ask if she would like any company?

Does she have children herself? Will she be alone on the day?

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

Thanks for the messages. Yes she has two daughters herself, the youngest is only 3 months old. She has a fantastic husband but he's also struggling with the loss. Its all so sad. I think I'll text her just so she knows I'm here if she needs me.

[cocochanel21]

This is the first mother's day without my Dd1 and the first mother's day for dd2 who is nearly 4mths. Personally I'm dreading it and would rather just ignore it hopefully I'll feel different next year.

You sound a lovely friend, I would go with the text I'm sure she will appreciate it.

[Sofiatheworst]

This will be my first Mother's Day without my mum. A text and the offer of a cup of tea and a chat if it's needed is something I would really appreciate.

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

coco and sofia

[MummyBex1985]

If your friends mum only died last week then chances are every day will still be hell at the moment and Mother's Day won't be any different. She probably won't even register that it'll be any worse. Personally though I wouldn't recommend drawing it to her attention by saying you expect the weekend to be hard etc, but I would send a general text offering some company if she feels up to it.

My mum died two weeks before (last) Christmas and Christmas Day was horrible. It just passed in a blur really. I'd have ignored it completely if we didn't have kids. I successfully avoided any new year celebrations. I suspect your friend will be in a similar boat on Mother's Day given how recent her loss is.

Like me, as she has kids, it's unlikely she can bypass it completely, so an offer to meet up would be good. I wouldn't offer to take her out or anything as everywhere will be full of mums and daughters!

HTH.

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

mummybex thanks for your advice. I did think I should've put in my original post that any day at the moment is tough. It was only last week that I was with them both looking at Mother's Day cards. She died later that day.

[Igottastartthinkingbee]

And sorry for your loss too mummybex