I miscarried last July. Around 8 week gestation. Happened at home and was complete and whole.
I still have the baby. I will refer to it as a baby because it did have some recognisably developed features.
It was my first miscarriage, having previously had 2 healthy pregnancies in my late 30s/early 40s. Although I 'knew' this wasn't going to be a happy ending, as I kept referring to the 'viability' of the pregnancy which I'd never done in previous pregnancies.
I put the baby in a little box that first night and kept it next to me on the pillow. It's since been kept refridgerated and is now dehydrated and shrunk but still recognisable to anyone who could later stumble across it. It's tucked well away ithe house now.
I need some closure, yet I'm reluctant to part with it. Also, I don't know how. Don't want to bury in my garden as I'm renting. I've thought of burying in the grave of the father's family member but I haven't asked him about that yet. He has no affinity with the physical remains of this miscarriage like I do.
I've also thought of smelting into jewellery, a ring perhaps, so it's with me forever, but I really don't want to post it off, I'd like to witness the process, just to be sure. How is that achievable?? Can hardly ask a local blacksmith to melt down to ashes, or can I?
How did you take care of your miscarriage if your's was also at home?
I'm divided between smelting into a ring to wear forever or burying.
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