I need to say things here that I can't say in RL.
My Dad was diagnosed with cancer last year. We were hopeful for treatment but last week he was the told one of the tumors is very aggressive. He is having more treatment but realistically I don't think we are looking at years, maybe even months.
I can't bear to think about it. He is so key to our family and me. We see each other every day and he's really hands on with our young DC. He wants to keep on as normal and we've planned to do some things this year. But I at the back of my mind I'm thinking will this be the last time we do things together. I just want to howl. He's only 65.
I don't know how I'll be able to do this. And support him and my Mum. He can't just not be here but that is exactly what is going to happen.
Added to this DH lost his Dad a short while ago but instead of supporting each other, I think it's pushing us apart, certainly for me. I'm there for DH but it's highlighted to me how different we are. I also think DH isn't a patch on my Dad for supporting and looking after us as a family (I feel awful saying that). After his dad died he said he was a changed man and that he realised how important his family is but that's all been forgotten, last week he told me he doesn't think he likes being a dad. I'm not sure about my marriage, but really can't be dealing with that now as well. Then again, what happening makes me think life is so short. This should probably be in relationships!
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PurpleDamson · 13/02/2015 15:34
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