Hi ladies, I posted on here before about my mum and her lung cancer. You gave me good advice to keep the anger in and just try and spend time with here as much as possible. I planned a surprise 60th birthday party at my house 3 weeks ago which was great, she walked in, was very surprised and happy and burst into tears. Took photos and she ate some food and chatted for a few hours, it really was a lovely day.
On Sunday night she took a turn for the worse and went to hospital, for a few days. The hospital have now moved her to the hospice where she will stay. They have estimated a week, I'm sitting in the hospice now holding her hand, which I've been doing since Monday in shifts with my sister and dad.
I'm actually quite calm, and feel very prepared for what's going to happen, I may be very naive and think I'm handling it better than I should be, but I'm trying to be strong, as my dad and sister are in bits.
May just use mumsnet to vent/share over the next few days, she is very comfortable and sleeping most of the time, but occasionally wakes up and sometimes says things that are coherent. I asked her yesterday if she was scared, and she said she wasn't scared just frustrated. I have also told her I love her several times and she said she loves us all too, but doesn't want to talk like that as it upsets her. (Mum is a very strong proud woman, and it is the first time she said she has loved me, that I can remember) it's actually quite lovely because I have held her hand constantly and rubbed her feet, cleaned her nails, wiped her face etc. I have never been so physical with her since being a small child, it's actually quite lovely feeling so close to her.
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I'm at the hospice and not angry anymore
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Millie3030 · 28/11/2014 11:48
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