Losing a friend

[pippitysqueakity]

not sure if right topic. My friend is dying. It's hard. It's cancer and is v aggressive. We're talking days now
It has all been very quick (from the outside).
Is just hard.

[mummylin2495]

Very sorry to see this about your dear friend, a very sad time for you too. I hope you have been able to spend some time with her .

[sj73]

Oh god. I just heard similar news this evening about my best friend except she's got longer. Really don't know what to say or do. I'm so so sad. X

[sj73]

And I'm very sorry to hear about your friend and that you are also going through the pain of losing a friend. I just realised how me me me my post was.

[pippitysqueakity]

sj73, not at all and thank you for taking the time to post. I am going to see her tomorrow, and am a bit scared. I saw her about 3 weeks ago and she was herself, but beginning to get a bit confused. Apparently now she is mentally better, but physically worse. Before, we took chocs and mags etc. Feels wrong to turn up with nothing, but is there anything that would not be an empty gesture? Stupid question I know, I am just focusing on the trivial.

[pippitysqueakity]

Sorry, thank you too mummylin, I appreciate the time to respond and such an empathetic post.

[sj73]

I totally get what you mean. Every gesture and everything I say feels crass and trivial. It wll feels wrong and inappropriate compared to the enormity of what they are going through. I asked my friend what I could do to make things easier. She said she wanted humour and to be able to laugh. Is there anything you could bring her that might make her chuckle? I understand how you must be so nervous about seeing her. Xxx

[mummylin2495]

How about taking her some nice hand cream or something like that ?

[pippitysqueakity]

Good ideas, ty. I have a photo of us at school, maybe that? And some hand cream, that seems like a lovely idea. She is not yet 50, it is grim.

[Squarepegina]

My best friend died very young. I'm sorry for her and you. I did practical things for her children and when I visited I tried to chat about ordinary funny everyday things. It was hard. Near the end a candle was a gift she kept lit beside her. Thinking of you both.

[pippitysqueakity]

My dear friend died last night. 6 weeks before her 50th. we were having a joint do, I was one day older.
Took the photos, she was not conscious.
Glad I went to see her.

[AllotmentQueen]

I'm so very sorry for your loss pippity . I lost a dear friend 13 years ago at the age of 39, and I still miss her so so much. When I see pictures of her children on FB or think about the fact she never met my boys - it's all very hard.

Be gentle with yourself - it's a long road of coming to terms with such an early loss x

[ajandjjmum]

So sorry pipp - I hope that in time you'll gain some comfort from your memories.

[mummylin2495]

So sorry to hear this news, look after yourself and try and recall all your happy times together. She will live on in your heart and memories.