My darling Dad passed away very suddenly in May.
He was buried with my mother, who died sixteen years ago. This is where things get a little complex. My Dad was just wonderful for my childhood and adolescence but, after my Mum died (I was 16) he went into what I now realise was a severe depression and he almost immediately met another woman. His behaviour during those years was odd and I don't judge him for this but at any rate, he wasn't the lovely Dad he had been.
In 2011 he met another woman and he was with her when he died (abroad.) I have no real quarrel with her but I don't know her well (my dad liked to keep his two worlds separate shall we say!) and if I am to be totally honest I feel great sympathy with her but just the same he was married to my Mum for over thirty years and would have stayed married to her if it wasn't for her premature death. He knew his partner for less than three.
So would it be very 'cruel' to get a new headstone with 'our beloved parents' the names and dates and a line about them being reunited? Or would this be acceptable?
I don't want to hurt feelings but I do feel my parents are together, at last.
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butterytoastandmarmalade · 02/08/2014 14:28
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