Just wondered if anyone has any knowledge that might help me identify what is going on with dm;
We all lost df six months ago and of course are all grieving, but dm was with him since the age of eighteen, they married at twenty one and she has never had a life outside of her marriage and motherhood. Dm gave up work when she had me, I am now fifty and she is seventy six, and apart from two summers working part time for six weeks when I was a teenager she has done nothing else.
Df totally sheltered her and she is of course now like a lost child, she has no idea how to do anything and is scared of everything. She has narc tendencies anyway but is getting more and more inward looking, she goes on and on about the village she lives in, and anyone from there as if they are superior to anyone else, she seems to be so terrified of anything else she is even reluctant to visit my sister and I in a town fifty miles away that she knows as we have both lived there for years, and as a non driver we even go and fetch her and take her home.
She has admitted she is frightened and of course desolate at her loss, and I understand that, but I have noticed that she is starting to repeat herself in conversations and is now reinventing her past, she now talks as if she had a career, and this obsession with all things "home town" is getting quite bizarre, even the moss is different there, and as for the tradespeople....my dh says he swears he can hear the Archers theme tune playing in the back ground when she is with us!
Sorry to be flippant but seriously, is this just grief, is it depression or is it dementia starting? Does anyone have any knowledge of this and what to do to help, other than try to be there for her, as much as we can be as we all work full time. Any ideas would be welcome....
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smilersmummy · 30/07/2014 20:19
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