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my friend is so nasty..cant believe what she just said

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buffythenappyslayer · 21/08/2006 14:58

i had mc in march.and my friend was pg at teh time.

she said quite a few horrible things to me when i told her i had mc'd,one being it served myself right for not being sterilised,after all,what did i want more kids for!

i was so upset and didnt reply to any of her messages.she kept sending me pics of her growing bump,and still i ignored her texts.

she had her baby last month,and her dh rang to let me knwo.i am pleased for her,they have been trying for another one for years,and this baby is the result of a 2nd ivf.

i sent her a card and a prssie,and have started replying to her texts again.

but she has just sent me a message nopw,first of all she sent a pic of her baby,then she sent me a message saying "ha ha,ive got what you cant have!bet you are so jealous.im glad you had mc now you know how i felt"

the last bit referred to when i was pg with ds2 she had a mc.i never sent her pics of her belly,or nasty messages.

i am so upset,i just cant believe her.i text her back asking her why she said that and she hasnt replied yet.

should i ring her and have it out with her?i mean,whta is her problem?

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pesme · 21/08/2006 15:00

she is seriously warped, tell her to p*ss off out of your life. take care.

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barnsleytykes · 21/08/2006 15:00

dont think shes much of a friend, i would blow her out

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MrsJohnCusack · 21/08/2006 15:01

um - FRIEND?

you know the answer really - do you have time in your life for such an unutterable bitch?

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Pennies · 21/08/2006 15:01

She sounds totally unhinged. Do you get on with her DH? If so I'd tell him what she's done because it sounds like she needs some help. Could you show him the text she sent you?

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domestickler · 21/08/2006 15:01

wtf? I would bloody throttle her just before telling her to F*ck off and never speak to me again

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Fimbo · 21/08/2006 15:02

I would delete her number from my phone, block all messages from her etc. What a nasty nasty woman. I seriously would have nothing to do with her anymore.

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LIZS · 21/08/2006 15:02

She has issues, leave her to deal with them and don't rise to her comments .

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JessaJam · 21/08/2006 15:02

She is a robo-bitch! Step away now in case you become contaminated!
Unbelievable .

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TenaLady · 21/08/2006 15:02

Blimey warped is an understatement. Get away from that one.

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MarsLady · 21/08/2006 15:03

buffy in the bluntest of terms. Dump her! She is NOT a friend and she is certainly NOT someone you need or should want in your life.

You are worth far more than that. Don't respond to her messages anymore and if her DH contacts you tell him that you would rather have no more contact. I don't think you owe her any explanation, but for the sake of your own sanity etc..... Dump her!

She was not only nasty but incredibly cruel!

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meowmix · 21/08/2006 15:03

forward it to her husband and ask if she needs pyschiatric help.... I mean loads of us have been in that position and never thought to behave like this

seriously she's toxic. get rid.

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morocco · 21/08/2006 15:04

that's appalling! sorry, I wouldn't call her a friend at all. It's good that you've already sent the card and present cos I would leave it at that if it were my 'friend' and not bother contacting her again. If it's going to simmer inside you, you could also write a well worded letter explaining how hurt and upset her comments made you feel and why you won't be contacting her again.

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Lemmingswife · 21/08/2006 15:05

What a nasty, warped person she sounds! You are best shot of her as a friend.

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buffythenappyslayer · 21/08/2006 15:07

we have been friends since we were 8!(am now 31)

just rang her and when she answered i said it was me,she hung up.cant stop crying now,she is total bitch.

i was there for her when she had mc,when shes had probs with her dh (all caused by her i have to add) ive always been there for her albeit at the other end of a phone (shes in hull,im in wales) so i jsut cant believe her.

ive rang dh and hes gone nuts.hes ringing her dh up now.

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SaintGeorgeMarple · 21/08/2006 15:09

OMG

Is this the one that lives near me buffy?

Drop her like a hot coal.

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Pennies · 21/08/2006 15:10

Evil bitch. Will be interested to know what her DH has to say.

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buffythenappyslayer · 21/08/2006 15:11

no,she lives just off spring bank west.

just tried ringing her now,and callminder came on.hope my dh has rang her dh and hes on the phone with her now

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meowmix · 21/08/2006 15:11

don't call her buffy. she's not worth either the effort or the phone bill.

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waterfalls · 21/08/2006 15:12

Let your dh have a word, and then drop it, she sounds an evil bitch who is getting a kick out of upsetting you, ignore all text messages from her, it is a reaction she is after.

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MeAndMyBoy · 21/08/2006 15:13

Walk away - she isn't a friend. She using you to her own ends and is nasty and spiteful with it. You don't deserve to be treated like that at all.

What a cow!!!

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prettymum · 21/08/2006 15:13

an evil person like dat is not worth having around yourself and ur family, you're worth more

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Scoobydooooo · 21/08/2006 15:13

She is a bitch ignore her, hse obviously can not control her jealousy & has to be a nasty cow with it, let your dh deal with her & then i would leave it at that she is no friend.

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buffythenappyslayer · 21/08/2006 15:14

dh has rang her dh,my dh just rang to say he had.he wants to come home,but ive told him im ok,im on mn!

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Fimbo · 21/08/2006 15:14

What did her dh say?

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tissy · 21/08/2006 15:16

Is your "friend" habitually bitchy, or is this something relatively recent? I wonder if she misunderstood something that you said when she had her m/c and is now getting her own back?

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