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How should i acknowledge my friends loss on mothers day?

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Blarblarblar · 09/03/2014 16:03

My oldest and dearest friends wee boy was stillborn nearly 6months ago, she is obviously heart broken. I know mothers day is hallmark holiday to a lot of people but I feel like I should acknowledge that, even though he isn't with us physically I still know she is a mum. I just don't know what to do. Is a card ok or cheesy just saying I'm thinking of her and him and sending my love. We don't live near each other anymore but we talk weekly so I can't just pop round. We talk of him often. I also considered getting an engraved box to keep his ashes in but wasnt sure if that would over step. Any advice opinions welcome.

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Kewcumber · 09/03/2014 16:06

Does she have photos? How about a photo frame with his name on it? And a simple card saying "thinking of you and your lovely boy on Mothers day" or something like that?

Personally I wouldn;t go for a box for ashes simply because they may already have some plans. I'm sure other people who have been in her position would be able to give you better advice.

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MyNameIsKenAdams · 09/03/2014 16:06

I would just send a little text "thinking of you xx"

That way she can acknowledge if she feels up to it or ignore in the politest way.

Tbh its good of you to remember. I dont know how many people will think.

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starfishmummy · 09/03/2014 16:16

Whlie it is lovely of you to remember, and to think of her, I do think that actually doing anything to mark the day is best left to her and her oh. A simple text like Mynameiskenadams suggests is probably enough.

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Blarblarblar · 09/03/2014 16:18

Thanks ladies, I like the picture frame idea. I know she is very keen not to create a shrine but she could put his foot prints or hand prints in it or do nothing with it.

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AugustRose · 21/03/2014 09:01

I have other children but the son I lost is never remember on mother's day so any card or message that acknowledges her as a mum to her precious baby boy will be appreciated. I think she will have her own ideas for his ashes and that is a very personal thing so just letting her know you have remembered will be enough. It is a lovely that you want to help her as many will not.