I have posted under a different name recently but starting afresh today
I had a stillbirth not too long ago. I just can't move past the guilt. I did properly register that my child had not been moving until very late in the day and I feel terrible thinking a few hours earlier could have saved her life. There is no explanation for her death as of yet.
I don't think there is much anyone can say to make me feel less guilty or responsible. I do. But I need to move forward from this useless emotion so I can be present for my other children and partner (right now I'm so tortured by guilt, I can barely get out of bed).
So...how do I do this? Releasing myself from the guilt feels like getting myself off the hook and dishonouring my child and minimising the distress she may have suffered and the fact that she won't get to live her life because of me. I don't feel I deserve to feel ok - at all. But as I say, my poor living children and partner will suffer because of this, so I just have to find a way to let it go.
What works? CBT? Specific counselling/books or can anyone assure me from experience that the passage of time will make the guilt less intense. I have to know that I can overcome this
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RainIsTooLoud · 08/02/2014 00:14
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