My brother was murdered last night.

(334 Posts)
MetallicHighlights Wed 04-Dec-13 21:17:51

That's it, really. He was stabbed to death on his doorstep. Just been staring at the photo of his house with the forensic tent outside on the BBC website.

I've been spamming FB with maudlin photos but reckon my friends there have probably had enough by now, so have come here to rant instead.

DD (14) adored him. She is being very brave. DS doesn't know yet as it's his 5th birthday today and I wanted him to have one more day of fun before he learns that life is shit.

So how do we get through this?

Jenijena Wed 04-Dec-13 21:19:01

I am so so sorry for all your loss. How utterly dreadful. Would you like to tell us about him?

TheArticFunky Wed 04-Dec-13 21:19:44

I am so sorry.

Fab41 Wed 04-Dec-13 21:21:27

I have no idea how you can get through, what a dreadful shock it must be. Remember good times and don't be shy in asking for help in RL
I am so sorry for your loss

bumbumsmummy Wed 04-Dec-13 21:22:05

I am sorry that this has happened to your brother

Flossiechops Wed 04-Dec-13 21:22:17

Gosh I'm so sorry. What a terrible tragedy for you and your family sad

ParsingFancy Wed 04-Dec-13 21:22:22

Oh dear god. I'm so sorry. Rant away.

Rowlers Wed 04-Dec-13 21:23:20

How absolutely dreadful, truly. Children do come through these things remarkably well ime though. You have my deepest sympathy. Look after yourself x

Flatasawitchestit Wed 04-Dec-13 21:23:46

I'm so sorry OP. sad

Fuckingfacebook Wed 04-Dec-13 21:23:55

Oh I'm so so sorry.

EweHaveGoatToBeSkiddinInSnow Wed 04-Dec-13 21:24:00

I am so so sorry.

My friend was in this situation last year. Her little brother was stabbed to death by his girlfriend. She has been through utter turmoil through the whole court case (the woman got bail!) and sentencing (she'll be out in 5 years).

The things that have helped her are:

having people around.

writing down her feelings. She wrote on his FB page every day (so please don't be put off doing this).

and most importantly, time.

Over a year has passed since his death. She's still obviously heartbroken, but much better than this time last year.

Her children were 3 and 5 when her brother died. They don't quite understand what has happened, but she takes comfort in talking to the children about their uncle regularly as she can't bear the though of them not knowing/forgetting him.

I'm sorry if i've been terribly un-useful. I really feel for you and wish you all the best. thanks

MetallicHighlights Wed 04-Dec-13 21:24:35

Thank you for taking the time to reply. His name was Jon, he was a gardener, a mad keen guitarist and could go on about the castles of Britain for days. He was also a stubborn sod. He was only 16 months younger than me, so I don't even remember a time when he wasn't there. I think both my kids were half convinced he was some kind of superhero. How is it that I'm having to use the sodding past tense about him?

LCHammer Wed 04-Dec-13 21:24:54

I am so sorry. Your lives turned upside down.

hoobypickypicky Wed 04-Dec-13 21:25:14

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Would you like to talk about him? Would it help? Please ignore me if you'd rather not. xx

hoobypickypicky Wed 04-Dec-13 21:25:39

Sorry, I cross posted with you.

Zamboni Wed 04-Dec-13 21:26:50

So sorry for your loss OP.

nilbyname Wed 04-Dec-13 21:27:05

Oh my god, how completely horrendous, I'm so so sorry to her of this.

What was he like?

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Wed 04-Dec-13 21:27:39

I'm so sorry. He sounds lovely. What an awful shock for you. flowers

TheCrumpetQueen Wed 04-Dec-13 21:28:02

So sorry x

I'm so sorry for your loss. That seems rather meaningless in the face of such a horrific event. There aren't words enough x

gamerchick Wed 04-Dec-13 21:28:38

I'm so so sorry sad

Oh my god, how truly awful. So sorry for you and your kids.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Wed 04-Dec-13 21:30:37

So sorry OP, how heartbreaking sad. He sounds like he was lovely, and talented, and vibrant. thanks

I hope justice is served and his attackers are punished.

claretandamberforever Wed 04-Dec-13 21:30:44

Exactly what Ruby Tuesday said xxx RIP Jon.

sassytheFIRST Wed 04-Dec-13 21:31:02

HOw utterly awful. I'm so sorry.

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