My Mum has been dead for 80% of my life!

(7 Posts)
LiveFastDieOld2 Wed 10-Jul-13 14:04:29

My Mum would have been 50 on July 18th. But she died when I was 4 and my sister was 2 (ovarian cancer) and I hardly remember her. Odd scenes of course like paddling in a stream with her and her washing my hair. My sister doesn't remember Mum at all. It must have been really hard for Dad in the early years even with a house keeper to help him. She did lots for us both, far more than she was ever paid for, but it's not the same as having a proper Mum around. Dad will remember why the 18th is special but I wonder who else will?

JumpJockey Wed 10-Jul-13 14:10:04

It's rubbish isn't it? My mum died a few weeks before my 6th birthday, of an aneurysm (no signs of anything before it happened, just totally out of the blue) and now I'm 37. My aunt (her sister) died 5 years ago, who was the last real connection to her childhood apart from the stories she told my dad. I have a very few memories, most of which are based around family holidays that we have photographs of.

I would like to say more but am at work, this is just to say I feel for you.

QOD Wed 10-Jul-13 14:10:58

sad

Horsemad Wed 10-Jul-13 18:20:29

Next year my dad will have been dead for 30yrs; not sure why but that feels significant, maybe because I have a big birthday next year. He was almost 53 when he died. sad

LiveFastDieOld2 Sat 27-Jul-13 17:43:15

We had a little party for Mum on July 18th. Lots of people who remembered her came along and I quite enjoyed what I had been dreading.

RatherBeOnThePiste Sat 27-Jul-13 18:38:02

Oh I do really feel for you, I had a very sad time when I realised that I'd had longer apart from my dad than I'd ever had with him. Knocked me for six actually. Still does, and I was 17.

Glad your party went well, big hugs.

oldham70 Fri 09-Aug-13 21:53:19

I have beenwithout my dad longer than I had with him too. It isn't nice. Especially since my mum passed away too. Sorry to all in this position. Although I am grateful fot the 20 years I had.

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