Could do with some hand-holding please?

(481 Posts)
ChubbyKitty Mon 20-May-13 06:32:04

Horrific accident in my parents house. Mum and grandad have both gone, dad is stable, and only found one of three cats.

I'm 21, I did not expect to lose my mum this soon at all. It hasn't even sunk in properly yet, and I know when it does I will be completely destroyed. What do I even dosad

mummylin Thu 10-Oct-13 02:13:46

Had the same problem chubby , it sort of dropped off the radar. Didnt think I would be on mn at all tonight as MN been so slow, apparently the site was near crash point !
Anyway , how are you getting on now you are further down the line ?
No word from Asda I spose, bloody rude if they don't even reply.

ChubbyKitty Thu 26-Sep-13 22:18:18

Urrrgh thread vanishedblush

mummylin Tue 24-Sep-13 01:04:13

Hi chubby, hope you are doing ok. Are you sleeping better than you were now ? Have you had your cuddle with that little baby yet ? They change and grow so quickly before you know it they are going to school ! Chat soon

mummylin Sat 21-Sep-13 00:45:56

Oh it will be a good job when you get out of there, you need a clean break with a new start. But you mustn't push yourself too hard. You have been through a massive trauma and although you may think your ok, your probably not, your bursting into tears is a natural thing, that is what grief does, you can be perfectly fine then something just happens or you think something and it upsets you. I was like that myself last weekend when I heard the song we had at my mums funeral on X factor , I just sat here in tears and for me it's 22 months.! You are perfectly normal and tears are healing better to let t out than keep,it all inside you.

ChubbyKitty Sat 21-Sep-13 00:35:17

He has. He also had one of the cats, she moved today. It was strange coming home from work and not being jumped all over!

I don't think work is helping at all. Sometimes I almost burst into tears and have to excuse myself to the bathroom for a few minutes.

mummylin Sat 21-Sep-13 00:18:09

Sorry that you felt sad last night, but it's understandable . It's been a tough few months for you. I think you have been very strong . Hope your dad is bearing up ok now that part has been carried out. Has he moved into his new place ?

mummylin Thu 19-Sep-13 17:20:13

Yes she can now be at peace. But do remember that you are her child so therefore she lives on in the genes she has passed on to you x

ChubbyKitty Thu 19-Sep-13 17:05:40

I'm sure one day there will be yes!

I do have a little weight lifted in someway that she's now finally resting.

mummylin Thu 19-Sep-13 15:46:38

I don't blame you, glad that is now over and I would think although awful situation you are relieved that it is over. Now you somehow have to start rebuilding your life . And make it the best that you can for as you know sadly it is sometimes over too quickly. S as you start off on your different life I wish you all the happiness in the world and will await you telli g me that little footsteps are on the horizon smile x

ChubbyKitty Thu 19-Sep-13 14:56:15

It went better than I expected but the weather was absolutely atrocious so I'm going to be kind to myself after I've had a bit if a tidy and snuggle up with the cats until my friend comes round.

mummylin Thu 19-Sep-13 11:05:51

Chubby, I am thinking of you this morning, not sure what time you are doing the ashes. This has been going on now for a few months, and this really will be the final thing for you to do. Hope it all goes ok

mummylin Mon 16-Sep-13 10:34:42

We also do t want to put heating on yet, once we start then it onto use all winter, my dd had hers on today when we were there. God I hate the cold

ChubbyKitty Mon 16-Sep-13 01:55:41

I have yeah.

It's freezing! I tried to keep heating off til October but stuff that.

mummylin Mon 16-Sep-13 01:10:20

You been to work tonight ? Don't know bout you but I think it's bloody cold tonight

ChubbyKitty Mon 16-Sep-13 01:00:43

They can yeah. Not been for my cuddle yet I've been so busy! But I have seen a lot of photos and she is just beautifulsmile

mummylin Mon 16-Sep-13 00:37:26

Have you had that cuddle yet chubby ? My gd,s friend had a baby on sat, only 17 and was a big baby 8lb 2oz ! Bet she was glad when that was over, I sent her some little baby clothes cause I don't think she has a lot and not much support from her parents. Some people can be so. Bloody nasty can't they

mummylin Fri 13-Sep-13 00:44:54

I can understand your dad being anxious. It's a massive change for him, and he will still be grieving for your mum. He has really had a terrible time of, and then on top of that his dad. It's almost too much to bear I would think. But hopefully, he will soon get used to his new place and feel more settled.

ChubbyKitty Fri 13-Sep-13 00:14:11

Not seen baby yet I've been helping my dad so much. He's got majority of his furniture sorted, just needs to do a freezer shop and everything and then he can be in. He's apprehensive about living on his own but one of the cats is going with him so he will have some company. She's being ever so good, we've got the cat basket out so she can get used to being in it and doesn't panic in the car.

DP still hates his work but nowhere near as much as I hate mine! But there was another position at Asda to apply for with 30 hours so if I get that it'll be close to what I was on before so that'll be nice.

mummylin Tue 10-Sep-13 11:28:55

Just checking that you did not get trapped in your bathroom ! Have you got work tonight ? How is your friend with new baby getting on , did you say you would get to see it tomorrow ? Has it all settled down at your DP. S works now, I know they were giving him a bit of a hard time at one point thank god you both have each other. See you later somewhere or other !

mummylin Tue 10-Sep-13 00:36:48

Has he picked out his furniture, will be very strange for him won't it, hope it's not too far away from you

ChubbyKitty Tue 10-Sep-13 00:28:44

Almost just getting it all sorted now.

mummylin Tue 10-Sep-13 00:21:41

They will soon get fed up and talk about something else. Has your dad got his new place yet ?

ChubbyKitty Tue 10-Sep-13 00:16:59

I ignored. Sort of. I did make a passive aggressive status.

mummylin Mon 09-Sep-13 23:57:01

Yes. You would think they had other things to speak about. Did you leave them a comment or ignore it. The town.lout, female ! Oh my god whatever next . What's wrong with people.

ChubbyKitty Mon 09-Sep-13 23:53:22

No it's a 'community' page which is mostly used for missing pets and spotting the town lout who terrorises everyone (nice to know where she is to avoid her).

People were questioning whether my dad survived and whether he remembered it.

Lets see them remember it if I chuck a wall on their head...?hmmhmmhmmangry

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