Actually this is almost funny. Family research has revealed that this dumping your first wife with the kids and finding someone else and then living a double life for decades has strong tradition in the male side of our family- five fucking generations of it, dating back to the mid 1800s. What a fucking cliché!, to (mis)quote that evil gran in Catherine Tate.
So basically, as I said to my stepmother, he has actually been denying us to some people for decades. I said this to my stepmother. "No, no she said, he just separated out the two parts of his life." And the difference is?
And she believes that she knows him best of all in the world. If he was separating out the two halves how could she? How could she know what was going on in the other half?
She should have said nothing and taken the crap, if there were any, on herself. She has just hurt me more than my father's death is already. I have a huge stone in my chest.
Well, he's gone in the ground (well concrete shaft) now and the funeral passed without high-level funeral incident. My mother behaved impeccably and my stepmother was just quite weird and tried to take her hand all the time.
Good for your mother. Lot of high emotion understandably, stepmama couldn't really expect to orchestrate you all it's not as if you have anything to be ashamed of. IYSWIM I hope you can unwind a little now the funeral has taken place.
Not sure I'm coping too well tbh. Am back in France trying to start to deal with my father's stuff and my DH's mother's boyfriend has now died. DH and I both away from home so DMIL was looking after older two DDs as they are in the middle of exams. So she was not there when her bf died. Not sure I can cope with this so soon after my father's death, nor with my stepmother wailing about 13 people at the dinner table on Easter day and that's why 2 of them are dead now.