Support thread for anyone who is grieving for a parent (2)

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mummylin Thu 02-May-13 10:46:10

Welcome to our new home everyone. This should be where we all start to move on a little bit. Together we will cope.

waterlego Tue 10-Sep-13 21:39:38

Awww Badvoc. Poor DS sad Hope he gets over it quickly. Are you feeling any better today?

Marshy Well done for getting through another tough day. Your poor friend- bet she was glad of your support today.

supermario Oct and Nov sound a bit daunting- try not to worry about you'll cope until you get there. It's hard not to look ahead though, I know. We are making some tentative plans to spend Christmas in France with my mum and and auntie. I think we will all find Christmas difficult anyway, but not being at home might help a little.

t875 Nice to see you. We're doing the whole 'trying to get back into the routine' shindig. It takes a while doesn't it?

I have horrendous PMT at the moment and was very VERY shouty at the children today sad Tomorrow is a new day, and hopefully a less ranty one.

I have something exciting to look forward to. OH and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary at the end of October. Last week, he revealed that he and I are going to Florence for three nights in half term. His parents will look after our DCs. We are flying there First Class! I dread to think how much it's cost him, but apparently he booked it nearly a year ago so it's all paid for by now smile I feel very blessed. And very excited!

Badvoc Tue 10-Sep-13 22:35:57

Ds really poorly. Just back from a and e. he is vomiting now too.
Told dh I dint think I can cope with much more and I need some help and he told me he thinks I am "punishing him"

I don't really know what to say about that.

I can't do this.

mummylin Tue 10-Sep-13 22:40:17

You can do this badvoc, but your dh has to step up wether he likes it or not you need his help and support. If you don't get it he will end up,doing far more as you will by then be very ill. You cannot be expected to just cope with everything yourself. It's not right and t isn't fair. That's what our spouses are meant to do , support us.
Sorry to see your ds had to go to a& e , what did they say there ?

Badvoc Tue 10-Sep-13 22:50:53

Not sure..viral? He didn't start throwing up til we were there.
His sats etc are ok so home we go.
I am scared.
And I feel so alone.
Dh is asleep next door...ds in bed with me.
He has offered to have tomorrow morning off.
I suppose I am supposed to be grateful?

mummylin Tue 10-Sep-13 23:01:48

Didnt you knw that mst men have to be praised and thanked fr everything they do for " you " my dh says I've taken the rubbish out etc " for you " ! What planet are they on. You really need the help at the moment, you have had so. Much to cope with and it's not over yet , as you still ave your mum and aunt nt well. Leave him to it tomorrow, just escape somewhere for the day. Treat yourself to lunch somewhere thanks

Badvoc Tue 10-Sep-13 23:05:54

Just need sleep.

Marshy Tue 10-Sep-13 23:39:38

Badvoc - hope you get some sleep tonight and your ds improves. It's so hard when dc are ill even at the best of times.
Have a bit of time for yourself whilst your dh is off tomorrow morning. Sounds like you are all under a lot of stress

Marshy Tue 10-Sep-13 23:41:15

Waterlego, what a lovely treat to look forward to!

ssd Wed 11-Sep-13 08:05:35

hi marshy, have read all your posts and just wanted to offer you a hand to hold, I too had a hospital appt at 9am on Monday and I've had better news, so am sending you all my positive vibes and hoping you get better news next week xxx

I can't answer everyone individually but I'm thinking of you all xxx

Marshy Wed 11-Sep-13 09:09:55

Thanks ssd, I really appreciate that and am glad you had better news.
I am pretty freaked out by this turn of events, on top of mum dying in April and dd leaving at the end of this week (a good thing, but still a wrench). My coping capacity is getting close to used up, although I'm not sure what happens at that point, so I just keep carrying on!
Dreading and longing for Monday....

Badvoc Wed 11-Sep-13 10:26:38

I can really relate to how you feel marshy x
I am very close to my limit too ATM for various reasons.
My aunt has her appt tomorrow to get her results.
Mum seems ok...maybe she has taken on board what the dr said this time?
I just feel utterly unable to do the simplest things. Ironing is piling up. The house is a tip. Dh and I are barely speaking. And now ds2 is ill. I am going to push for a referral to ds1s paed. I can't go through another winter like last year.

mummylin Wed 11-Sep-13 12:43:19

Glad to hear you are ok ssd
badvoc hope you can step away from your problems today and ave a bit of space to yourself to get her your thoughts together. Hope your ds is feeling a bit better today.
marshy keeping my fingers crossed that all will be good news for new, must be hell waiting.
waterlego how exciting for you. What a lovely time to look forward to.

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mummylin Wed 11-Sep-13 12:50:54

New thread is ready for when we cross over, will link again as it gets a bit closer

mummylin Wed 11-Sep-13 13:12:11

Sorry to be a nuisance but can we go to new thread from now as already got a posting on it, will fill this one up as much as poss.

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