My Darling dad is in intensive care.He was diagnised with stomach cancer and decided to have to surgery to try to get it despite being high risk.He came thro and the cancer was cleared.He was in hig dependancy for a while and then went on a ward.We were so so releived.However a few days later the site of the surgery ruptured and seeveral interventions and 6 wks later he is in intensive care and until last week was not breathing on his own ,kidneys on filter machine and bpressure problems.The meds decided to fit a traceotomy to see if he can breathe for self ,which he is doing and they have taken him off sedation but he has not woken up.The nurse advses that this may take a lot time - or he may not as he has been on sedation for so long.He still needs kidney support.We just dont know if he wills urvive or not and am taking it day to day but as christmas approaches im finding it harder an d harder.I live a three mile drive away and i fel so far away both physicaly and that i just cant reach him...
I am so sorry that your dad is so poorly. I have been there too and know the feeling of uselessness. Try not to anticipate the future - just concentrate on the here-and-now and go and see him as often as you can.
bea- yes sorry meant 3 hr drive away.... Thankyou all for your lovely comments - needed to talk on here as im trying to carry on at home but getting snappy with dh when he complains re little things which of course is normal but im struggle to cope with...feel v v tired.thankyou all again.x
lady- my darling dad got to the tracototomy stage - they even took it out for a few mins so he could speak and he said he loved me.Then he got tissue infection and it staterd to overwhelm him and all his major organs and we were told he was dying - he was changing hr by hr.we had to make the decision to gently remove life support - they said he wd pass away between half hour and 8 hours and he died in 5 mins- we were all with him and talking to him and i had my head on his chest.
Hi, very sorry to read of your loss. My own dad died at the beginning of this month and we just had the funeral this week. Hope you are ok, I was in a total daze for two days after, it's a very strange time. Feels a bit better to be on the other side of the funeral. Take it easy if you can, takes time to get over it.