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Thank you shabs for our last thread, a place we can meet and help each other. Thank you for always being here with your big heart and your big smile.

A new thread to remember my first born son Oliver James who died aged 20. A beautiful soul with a crazy sense of humour who was loved more than could ever know and for all our special children who we keep safe in our hearts.

A big welcome to our beautiful new baby Ella

Remembering my beautiful Jack. Welcome to baby Ella. xxxxxxxxxx

To honour my beautiful glowing red star, Mia, the sun around whom my DH and I continue to orbit as her moons, drawing warmth from her love.

Oh Everlong what a beautiful thread title.

Remembering Gareth & Matty....two bright eyed little lads. You know how much we love you boys - wish we could have a peep at you to see how you are doing. xxx

Welcome to the world Ella xxxx

Beautiful new thread Everlong

My beautiful daughter Anabelle, loved to the moon and back, always xxx

Isn't it wonderful knowing a new thread is starting with a new rainbow baby! So pleased for you cheese - Ella is a gorgeous name!

Lovely thread, everlong. Welcome to the world Ella and a belated happy birthday to karma
And can I confirm that there has been no snow in Gran Canaria!

Beautiful new thread Everlong thank you.

Remembering little Erin every single day xxx

Congratulations cheese .. its wonderful that we have seen another safe arrival
I cant believe its been nearly 8 years since our first son Fraser was born sleeping.. where did the years go?? somedays it seems just like yesterday.. we miss him ever day

I have put a link from the old thread to this one.. hope thats ok

Remembering my precious Sterre... Love, like starlight never dies!

Thank you for the new thread! A very big welcome to our new rainbow baby Ella! Fantastic name, but then I'm slightly biased

Morning girls xx

Morning ladies xx

Thanks for this lovely new thread Everlong.

Remembering our beloved Richard loved and missed so much by us all xxx

Congratulations Cheese and welcome to precious Ella xx

Morning

Well school was open but the power had gone so had to bring ds home.

Never mind hot chocolate and films it is although I am going to set him some sums and spellings evil mother!

How's everybody else's snow?

Thank you for the new thread, everlong.

Remembering, Ciaran, my firstborn son who's missed every single day x

Welcome to baby Ella too x

The Internet connection is very slow here. Beautiful weather but things have been a little sad too. Firstly feeling guilty foe being here at all. If things were as they ought to be we'd have a 3 month old baby and would be minding her at home. Then there are families with little daughters and families with grown up daughters and It reminds me that I won't ever sunbathe with my daughter or take her out for a meal. Dh says we will take Sylvie-Rose out for a meal, she'll be there but she'll be a cheap date as we won't have to buy her any food. I would prefer if we had to order caviar and lobster for her!

Oh chip your dh sounds lovely, trying to make you laugh. It's so hard thinking about the things that won't happen I'm with you on that one. Hope you can find some peace whilst you are in the sun (((())))

its hard being away the first time chip.... it does get easier I know right now it doesnt feel like it but one day you will be able to smile at other people's kids and not feel that stab in your heart

Of course sylvie Rose will be with you when you go for your meal... she will alway be with you ...

try to find some peace this week..

oh and there is no snow here <sulks>

Snow still here, but roads clear, so life is technically back to normal, just in black and white...

chip our Christmas trip was the same. A trip that you never meant to take... I just hope it can become a real holiday, and a time for healing for you and your DH.

A couple of 'nevers' for me today - my niece started school in Australia today, an excitement we will never have with Mia, although I have the whole scenario pictured so clearly in my head... a trip to IKEA, where I saw all the bits of furniture we had bought with such love and hope, and all the other things we intended to buy for Mia for Christmas. Big pain inside.

remembering my shining star, David. you are always in my heart. xx

Good morning girls xx

Morning ladies xx

I just thought I would post this poem again for the new mums. I can't remember who posted first but I think it says it all.

Ask My Mum How She Is

My Mum, she tells a lot of lies, she never did before,
From now until the day she dies, she'll tell a whole lot more.
She used to tell the truth a lot, but now it doesn't matter,
I died and went to heaven, now her life is all a-shatter’d.

Ask my Mum how she is, and she'll say "oh yes, I'm fine!"
She wants to beg, "Please help me, ‘cause I’ve lost that boy of mine".
Ask my Mum how she is, and she'll say, "oh I'm alright",
If that's the truth then tell me please, why does she cry each night?

Ask my Mum how she is, ’cause she seems to cope so well,
She didn't have a choice, you see, nor yet the strength to yell.
You think you know the feeling, but in fact this cannot be,
For even though you loved me, it was not as much as she.

She’ll smile and she will tell you, "It's OK, God has a plan”
But then she’ll turn away and cry, ‘cause she can't understand.
You tell a joke, she giggles, but in fact she’s not OK,
She wants to share the joke with me, but it won’t be today.

I watch her here in Heaven, her distress disturbs my peace,
Will someone please take care of her, and thus take care of me?
"Some day you will feel better", "Yes, I will, one day", she lies,
She knows this will not happen until the day she dies.

Ask my Mum how she is and she'll say, "I’m doing good",
She cannot tell you how she feels - oh, how I wish she could.
Ask my Mum how she is: "I'm ok, I'm fine, I'm coping.”
For God's sake, Mum! just tell the truth and say your heart is broken.

Ask my Mum how she is: she’ll reply "I'm well, and you?”
I'll shake my head in Heaven, ‘cause it simply isn't true.
She'll love me all her life, just like I loved her all of mine,
She'll lie and try to hide the pain, pretending that she's fine.

Her carnival is over, she's stepped off the carousel,
But to save you feeling bad she'll say, "Yes thankyou, all is well".
My Mum, she's not gone mad quite yet, but oh, so very nearly,
Don't ask her how she's doing; ask her how she’s doing ...really.

I’m watching her from Heaven, and I cannot hug from here,
If she lies to you, don't listen, but please hug her, hold her near.
On the day we meet for ever we shall smile and I'll be bold:
"You're lucky to get in here, Mum, with all the lies you've told

Oh thank you Lavendes - I haven't read that for ages. Someone emailed it to me a few years ago. I love the line 'her carnival is over, she's stepped off the carousel.' I confess to being a 'massive liar' when it comes to saying how I feel. xxx

I am an Oscar winning actress when it comes to saying how I feel. I have been tempted to put it on fb then certain family members will see it and maybe think before they assume everything can carry on as normal. But I don't want to upset my son who does get it so I won't be doing that. xx

I agree my friend xx