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When did you put baby in own room?(77 Posts)
Just wanted to check what others have done re putting baby in own room.
Ds2 is now 8 weeks and am experimenting tonight with him in his own room. I know recommendation is 6months hence me asking you all what you did.
When I had ds1 we lived in 1 bed house til he was 18months and he was terrible sleeper and even worse when he got own room in new house as was used to us so didn't want same thing happening with ds2 but is this too early??
Plus am doing it to get dh back in bed as he currently sleeps on sofa to avoid the noisy night time feeds so thought if I do them in ds2 room he won't be so disturbed.
Guess I'm looking for reassurance that its ok!
First was in his own room at 8 weeks, second 9 weeks
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hi there, my twins went in their own room when they were 2 weeks-morden house and our bedroom wouldnt take 2 cots... but it was the best thing- you wont hear every little wimper and you wont disturb them... theyre nearly 2 and sleep really well now 7-7.30ish i often wonder if it wouldve been different with just one
Should mention i do have the angel monitor on for reassurance of movement/breathing!
We had DD in a bedside crib (I think this was the kind that's also described as a 'co-sleeper'). She used to push up to the head end with her legs, I used to have to move her back about 4 times every night as she would have her head jammed against the bars & start screaming. We put her in cot bed in her own room at 4 months, & voila! Slept through almost every night since.
26 weeks. I am a rule-following kind of mum.
4 weeks. She's much happier and so are we. There's a bed in her room for one of us to sleep in with her if she's poorly or something.
DS was in our room till 1yr, DD just moved to her own room at 20 months.
6 months. I did the night-time feeds in her room before then as I found it uncomfortable to feed in bed, so it didn't disturb DH. I couldn't imagine not having her in our room to begin with, but come 6 months I couldn't wait to move her, she could be a very noisy (if sound) sleeper!
DC1 was 9 months,
DC2 went in with DC1 at 8 months.
DC3 is 7 months and still in with us curently.
Personally it's one of the rules I follow.
She's 13 months and still in our room, but I definitely wouldn't have moved her before 6 months as I'd be far too worried to sleep.
My dd is ten months and still in our room. This is partly because she still wakes in the night and I can't be bothered to trek all the way (about two metres ) into her room. It's also because there was no way I would have moved her out before 6 months as I was too anxious about SIDS, and now also because I am a massive softy and I would miss her.
DD is coming up for five months, still in moses in our room and I am dreading having to move her to her own room, which I will do when she outgrows moses (it won't be long). She still feeds in the night, and currently that means I fish her out of moses and we do a lying down feed - and often doze off together. DH is sleeping on the futon in the other room as he has to work so we have the king size bed to ourselves and it's lush
Waking up together and that amazing smile as her eyes focus on me .ahhhh it is truly amazing . Plus I know it won't be for long so I really appreciate it.
8 mo still with us as it was easier than going back and forth when we tried. But like other say would you really feel comfortable moving them before 6 months - if something did happen would you be able to cope knowing you hadn't followed the guidelines! That's just how I feel.
Ds1 was 7wks and DD2 was 10wks
First night they went in their own room they slept through
I do have an angel care movement monitor in there.
Dd (pfb) was moved into her own room 2 weeks ago when she was 13 weeks. Writing it down makes it feel like she was really young but she dropped her night feeds at 8 weeks and her dad and I are up and about before she wakes in the morning, so we were just disturbing her and making her ratty.
She is also a massive wriggler/kicker when asleep and has actually bruised her feet from kicking so hard, this way she has the room she needs to sleep peacefully. If she's not crying out from hurting herself she doesn't make a peep until you hear her babbling in the morning.
Being slightly controversial, I'm find it interesting that the guidelines state 6 months as a minimum length for breastfeeding and when to move baby into their own room.
DS moved at 3 months when he outgrew the Moses basket and there was no space for a cot in our bedroom.
DD1 was 7 months as there was no cot for her until we bought a toddler bed for DS, and we co slept as she would only sleep on her side or front and screamed blue murder in the Moses basket (and also in the 'fishtank' in the hospital)
DD2 is only 4 weeks and she sleeps in the Moses basket or co sleeps with me. She was 2.5lbs lighter than DD1 so will be in the Moses basket as long as possible.
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It's a bit hazy here tbh, she started going to bed in her own room at 5 months. I would fed to sleep on a futon and then roll away and leave her to it, come back in and dream feed before I went to bed in my room, however when she next woke for a feed I just got in with her a stayed there.
By 8 months she was in her cot and being picked up, fed and put back for the 11, 1, and 4 o clock feed but then between 6-7 when she woke up I brought he into my bed for her breakfast.
She no longer bfs but she still comes into my bed when she wakes 6-7 for a snuggle
and to watch octonauts on my phone while I wake up as a single parent that's the only way I get a lie in.
I don't know if its helpful to say that if you don't follow the current guide lines you will feel worse if you baby dies, lets face it you are going to feel fucking horrendous if the worst happens even if you have some how followed ever piece of conflicting advice you were ever given
both mine were about 7/8 months as I wanted to keep the in with us for at least 6 months. The problem with moving them is that they do sleep more soundly but that is one of the risk factors for SIDS. There is no evidence that breathing/movement monitors help prevent cot death and they can give a false sense of security so we didnt use one.
Having read that it's no just about hearing your baby breathing in the night, but more about the baby hearing YOU breathing overnight (and therefore falling into the same rhythm which apparently can prevent them from stopping breathing), I wanted to stick by the guidelines of 6 months because I knew I would never forgive myself if anything happened just because I'd decided to make up my own rules (based on no evidence!).
However there were two parents living in the house and hubby would noisily roll over in bed, waking up the baby, and the baby would gurgle and snort like a little piggy waking up his Daddy. I used to lie in bed between them hardly daring to breathe - watching them wake each other up all night!
In the end Hubby begged for baby to go into his own room a bit early, so I conceded at 5 months and it worked out ok, but I know that doesn't mean everyone else would be ok too (it's a bit like a Mum smoking in pregnancy - which i hasten to add was not me!- and then gives birth to a healthy baby; its lucky but absolutely not guaranteed for everyone!) and I wouldn't want anyone to think just because we were ok moving him out at 5 months that everyone else automatically would be too
DS stopped night feeds at about 8 weeks and was in his own room at about 4 months.
I agree herrena, breastfeeding also lowers the risk of SIDS but if a woman didn't breastfeed you wouldn't say she'd feel worse because of it if her baby died.
In her own room at 7weeks here with the angel care monitor. I put her on her back at the bottom of her cot, I put her in a grobag and she has a dummy(this apparently reduces the risk of SIDS too) she stopped her night feed early too and sleeps through 8.30-8. You have to do whats right for you and what you feel comfortable with.
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