How tall is your 2 year old?

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chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 10:04:12

DD is 91cm tall (almost 36 inches)
She weighs 15kg. Turned 2 last week.
Everyone she meets comments on her size. She was born 10.4 pound (4.6kg) and has always been in 98th centile.
DH and i are both tall (i'm 5'11 he is 6'2)
I am starting to get really pissed off with people making a big deal of her height. I know they mean it in a 'wow she'll be a supermodel' way but I just feel it is rude to and I worry about her feeling different. I don't go around commenting on how short other people's kids are because i think it has sod all to do with them as a person. angry

My 3 year old is tiny. My 2 year old brother is has tall as him and also weighs more. The toddler wears size 1 1/2 to 2 years trousers as 2-3 are massive. People comment on his size and mention how riny he is all the time

chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 10:07:25

And do you like that??

I just smile and nod grin

Its obvious he is short. I'm no giant at 4 foot 11.5. Though my mum gets annoyed at people commenting on my brothers size. He is a beast of child tbh and no one believes his age

chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 10:12:25

It's mainly my cleaner who comes once a week and says 'oh my she's grown AGAIN' if she grew half as much as she said she did she would be the size of a bloody basketball player by now. I just have to fake grin and say 'yeah...yeah... Grown again...that's what they do hmm'
Or total strangers who when I say she just turned two they raise their eyebrows and say 'really? Wow she's tall...'
Really? No... I made it up. And telling me she's tall... What a revelation! All this time i was unaware because no one had ever had the insight to make such a bloody obvious observation.

Cant you get her a tshirt that says 'yes I'm tall' grin

Just smile and nod. You cant make them stop

coppertop Tue 30-Apr-13 10:30:01

People just use it as a way of making conversation. Over the years mine have had comments about their height (two were tall and one was tiny), their hair, and even their eyes.

Unfortunately they don't realise that they are probably the third person that day to have made the same comment.

The annoying bit comes when you're somewhere that's free for under-5s and the person letting you in/on refuses to believe that your child is only 2 or 3yrs old. It's very difficult to prove that they're younger than they look!

JuicyShops Tue 30-Apr-13 10:44:19

My 3.4 year ols is the exact weight and height as your 2 year old but does have growth problems, on the centiles she is 9th for height and 50th for weight so I assume your 2 year old is chunky-ish too.

I get the same, but the other way around! For what it's worth I have seen many kids grow up and at different rates, small kids suddenly become tall and tall kids stop growing!

JuicyShops Tue 30-Apr-13 10:45:04

Yes I can get her in places as under 3 that's a benfit too grin

resipsa Tue 30-Apr-13 13:07:26

Our DD is 2.3yrs, 96 cms and 16.5kgs! I'm sure some people wonder why she's not at school and can't speak properly yet when we're out in the day...
Hope she becomes a supermodel and I can out my feet up.

resipsa Tue 30-Apr-13 13:08:06

"put"

PseudoBadger Tue 30-Apr-13 13:12:43

DS is 27 months and 84cms. I think he's quite short but haven't bothered to check in the red book but I'm short and DP is average.

chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 13:26:34

Resipsa- yes it's hard when people have high expectations. People have been asking DD what her name is since she was 12 months- expecting an answer... When she doesn't they say 'oh is she shy?'... Nope... Just can't talk yet!! Lol
Yoni I like the t-shirt idea! Lol you might want to patent that!
Pseudo - according to statistics i think 85cm is average for a 2 y/o. wink

forevergreek Tue 30-Apr-13 13:29:26

23 months, 91cm

flossymuldoon Tue 30-Apr-13 13:29:53

My DS was almost exactly the same height and weight as your DD at 2 and was always in the 98th centile.
His growth and weight gained slowed when he got to about 2 1/2. He is now 3 1/2 and people still comment on his size as in general, other kids the same size are about a year older.

awwwwmannnn Tue 30-Apr-13 13:33:54

DD (2.4) is 95cms...not sure of her weight to be honest, she looks healthy and ok so i never bother weighing her blush

i thought she was about average, a lot of 2-2.5yr olds at the playgroup we go to are pretty much the same height as well....tell your cleaner to sod off, children grow its what they do, you don't need a running commentary every week lol xx

resipsa Tue 30-Apr-13 13:34:12

I'm going to Google the t-shirt - and get one for DH at the same time as he's 6'5".

HappyJoyful Tue 30-Apr-13 14:17:36

I don't think there is anyway it will make her feel different. As copper says I think it's just people making conversation.

I have no idea how tall DD is at 2.4yrs old or how much she weighs - all I know is she's happy, lively and thriving. I have a colleague that has a disabled daughter of the same age, I know he would love it if people commented on her height or her ability to walk and talk and not to look at the feeding tube she has to have.

We had 5 cycles of IVF to have her and feel so lucky and grateful that I treasure every comment that anyone makes about her - the other day it was 'you've got your work cut out there!'

I really suggest you try not to worry and stress or get pissed off about other people's comments it will happen constantly with a kids and that's just life.. heights at 2 aren't reflective of how tall a child will be and at this age it's constantly changing.

chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 16:28:27

Happy- my daughter is THE most beautiful, happy, intelligent, healthy, thriving and adored little girl in the world (to her parents)... We didn't have to go through IVF but knowing the pain of losing a child I can tell you whole heartedly we are grateful for every moment she has given us...however, being her adoring parents I am hard wired to be sensitive to other people's remarks about her that may leave her feeling different in any way. She is destined to be tall- she will always have remarks...
This was a bit of a light hearted rant..a way to vent...and also an attempt to establish if she really is so different- and if so, enable people to realise that perhaps if they do say things like this, it's not always perceived as a compliment.

HappyJoyful Tue 30-Apr-13 16:48:45

So sorry chatty, I probably came over a bit overzealous, it wasn't my intention. I guess we are all hard-wired to be sensitive as you rightly say and I didn't express myself well. I certainly didn't intend to upset and I am sorry for your loss.

I don't personally believe it's all mapped out and destiny, I'm sure someone who know's more about these genetics and height etc will be able to tell her. 6ft 2in isn't hugely tall for a bloke, I think average is around 5ft 9in and whilst yes, 5' 11 is above average for a woman it's not uncommon across Europe.

There are many things that kids stand out for and I agree with you wholeheartedly it isn't nice to be the kid that's always 'different' But, I do believe you play a part in that - and perhaps if she sees you feeling pissed off when people comment then it will rub off on her..

Again, apologies I didn't mean to de-rail your light hearted vent. I'm curious now as to how tall my dd is now compared to her, I will go home and find tape tonight! she has also had similar comments and certainly my niece too is similar age has a particularly tall 6ft 5in father we wonder also how tall she will be..

HappyJoyful Tue 30-Apr-13 16:49:48

tell her, apologies meant tell us!

flossymuldoon Tue 30-Apr-13 16:55:00

I am with you Chatty. I am hard wired to be sensitive to other peoples remarks. He may feel different to most in that he's adopted so i can't help but bristle when he gets comments as i want him to have the choice about whether he is 'different' or not.

As DS is adopted. I was paranoid during the early months of placement that anyone would think he was 'failing to thrive' (rediculous i know!) so i measured his height and mark it on the door jamb (something my parents did when i was a child and i loved seeing whether i had grown. We have attached a seperate piece of wood so we can remove and replace it when we decorate). Thankfully he grew 1/3" a month, every month.

I was also tall all the way through school and bloody hated it although ironically, all my friends caught up to me at high school and I am now only average height. I am a bit miffed as i'd love to be tall now!

resipsa Tue 30-Apr-13 16:57:03

I do find it a little sad that I have to buy DD age 3-4 clothes (or bigger) when she's barely 2.
Actually, height at 2 is a good indicator of probable adult height. DD is destined to be 6 feet or so but that won't be so unusual when she's 18. The boys will love her grin

flossymuldoon Tue 30-Apr-13 16:57:27

p.s. I have heard the height kids are when they turn 3 is half the height they will be as an adult. I know idea whether that's true or an old wifes tale though.

Jakeyblueblue Tue 30-Apr-13 17:21:42

My 22 month ds is 98th centile for height and weight. Everyone thinks he's about 3 and I do have to get him clothes for aged 3 too. He too was a 10lb plus newborn so have had it from the word go.
People comment on it constantly, especially as he's still bf and looks like I'm feeding a preschooler when actually he's still really a baby!
To be honest I love it! Feel very proud to have produced and maintained such a beautiful, thriving, strapping boy. Imagine if people kept commenting because your little one was tiny and skinny / underweight ? It would be way worse!
You should pat yourself on the back that you've reared such a picture of health and ignore them! smile

I have the opposite-DD is 2.4 and about 78cm (not sure exactly, but under 80cm, anyway). She's still in 12-18 month old clothes.

People seem compelled to point out her tinyness to me, and have done since she was born, like I hadn't noticed. It's got worse since DS2 was born, as he's so big (91st centile, and, at 12 weeks is in clothes she was in at 11 months)

I worry that it will affect the way people treat her as she gets older. I don't want her treated as a fragile, delicate little flower when she's anything but.

Coffee1Sugar Tue 30-Apr-13 17:34:26

Dd 2.11 97cms and 28lbs - can anyone enlighten me as to her centiles? Her red books at my mum's for some reasonhmm

humblebumble Tue 30-Apr-13 17:47:18

My DS's are tall (off the charts), but weight in the 85th - 95th centile. We get so many comments, especially regarding our youngest.

I do have a Mr Tall t-shirt for my youngest and a Mr Bump t-shirt as (along with being very tall, he is also quite accident prone). wink

PoppyWearer Tue 30-Apr-13 17:53:44

I have a dinky DC1 and a tall DC2.

TBH none of the comments have upset me yet, but DC2 isn't 2yo yet. I have been more upset about the comments on DC1's lack of height, TBH.

I'm also amazed at the differences between these two little beings that DH and I have created, from the same gene pool. One on the 9th centile, the other somewhere above 95th.

ChunkyPickle Tue 30-Apr-13 17:59:59

DS is totally average, and people still comment that he's tall - people just need to find something to comment on, and figure that heights better than weight I think.....

You can see the height predictor (and the error bars for it) at the side of the height charts in the red book. The error amounts for it make it laughably inaccurate - DS could be anything from 5'4 to 6'2 if I remember rightly!

AngelsWithSilverWings Tue 30-Apr-13 18:11:25

I understand how you feel as I have a very very tall DS. I was never sensitive about comments about his height but I do remember getting a lot of them!

My DS was 99cm when he was 2 and everyone made comments. He is also adopted so the comments always led to questions about how tall his dad is. I wasn't prepared for these questions as a fairly new adoptive parent and found myself getting all tied up in knots telling total strangers about his adoption.

The other big big problem was other people expecting him to behave like a much older child. I've never forgiven the librarian at our local library telling him off really sharply when he touched a display of books. He was still only one but looked much older. She was really horrible to him.

Also had other parents reminding me that the part of the soft play area we were in was for under threes only , being charged entry for places when he should have been admitted for free, oh and the classic " why is he still in a buggy? "

I often found myself saying " we'll I'm sorry but he is only two you know!"

Sorry I appeared to have joined you in having a rant OP!

Now he is 7 and he hates being the tallest kid in school. ( He was the tallest out of the whole of his infants school when he started in reception! ) He told me that he wishes he could be normal hmm.

chattychattyboomba Tue 30-Apr-13 18:31:39

Thanks for all the responses, just catching up now...

Aww Angels! Poor baby sad
It's awful feeling different as a kid it really is. Especially if you are not a particularly confident child. I love my height now (except that i look like a bloody amazon in high heals!! Lol) but when i gained over 10kg after having DD you couldn't really tell. That is to say you can't tell (still haven't lost it! blush)
Also i was able to do a bit of modelling as a teen which i really did enjoy- but those awkward years- you know the ones where your teeth are too big for your mouth and you're all knobbly knees and gangly arms? They really sucked! Especially when your ballet teacher tells you that you are too tall to be a ballerina, your aunt asks you to 'babysit' your cousin who is 10...and you are only 11...
People tell you that you are too old for dolls when you are 6
Boys your age are all shorter than you and creepy old men check you out... Lol
Anyway to draw something positive here i am glad so many admire height and will be focussing on all the positive aspects if DD ever expresses insecurity about her height...

BeaWheesht Tue 30-Apr-13 18:39:57

Dd is 95cm and 18kg. Very broad shouldered and massive head etc. comments don't bother me but I'm used to it - ds was much taller at this age, now at 6 he isn't as far ahead of his peers as he used to be.

MiaowTheCat Tue 30-Apr-13 20:01:55

I've had both sides of it with DD1... the tiny comments as she was premature - and then she started growing and went nuts! At just turned 1 she's in 18-24 month clothing and starting to dip into 2-3 stuff, and she gets mistaken for a 2 year old regularly.

Her dad is 6 foot 7. I blame him. Incidentally he was never massively tall as a kid - just kept bloody going!

Fantail Wed 01-May-13 06:08:06

My DD was 91cm and 13kg at her 2 year check. I am average height, DH is tall. We live in NZ where there are a lot of tall women, at 5'4" I am at the short end for my generation.

We haven't really had too many comments - being NZ they are along the sport related lines rather than modelling grin

JollyPurpleGiant Wed 01-May-13 06:18:33

I'm 5'1. DS turned 2 last week and is 88.5cm and 13.9kg. Just under 75th for height and just under 91st for weight smile

daisylulu Wed 01-May-13 06:21:56

My DD who just turned 2 is 92 cm, 15 kilo and has size 7 feet! grin

I'm only 5'2 and DH 5'10. Tbh I was very tall as a child and then stopped growing at 12 years old so I don't think tall DC definitely equals tall adult.

We do get the odd comment about how big DD is but I'm quite proud (after having endured lots of comments about how short I am). The only thing I do worry about (on a light hearted note) is whether DD is going to have HUGE feet when she's older.

OP - out of interest what size are your DDs feet?

youbethemummylion Wed 01-May-13 06:31:16

Poppywearer I am do glad you posted as I was beginning to think i was the only one Ds1 is on the 91st cenntile and Ds2 on the 2nd I have been worrying myself sick thinking something must be wrong with DS2! All the health.proffesionals say is how every child is different but still cant believe they can be this different!

Jakeyblueblue Wed 01-May-13 07:19:11

Daisy my ds 22 months has size 71/2 feet! As I said earlier, he's massive anyway but his feet look especially huge!

chattychattyboomba Wed 01-May-13 08:57:57

Daisy- DD also has size 7 feet. Turned 2 just over a week ago.

hazeyjane Wed 01-May-13 10:47:07

ds is 2.10 - 87cm tall (just under 2nd centile) and weighs 14.6 kg (between 50th and 75th centile)

juicyshops - do you mind me asking what growth problems your dd has? I hope you don't mind. Ds has a genetic condition so his height maybe because of that (although as a family we are all shortarses!)

Ds only gets comments when people know his age, otherwise they just assume he is a baby. He has very babyish features, no speech and is delayed in all areas, so it is only when people know that he is nearly 3, that they are a bit shock.

hazeyjane Wed 01-May-13 10:49:01

He also has size 4 feet!!

MoominsYonisAreScary Wed 01-May-13 11:33:13

Ds3 2.1 I have no idea how much he weighs or his height but last time they checked him he was off the chart!

He's in age 4 clothes and 9.5 shoes. He was my smallest baby at 8 weeks early and 4lb 4. Ds1 was the biggest at 11lb 2 and is 6.4 and still growing now (he's 18)

Ds4 is 12 weeks and I don't think he will be in his 3-6 month clothes for much longer.

gourd Wed 01-May-13 13:42:34

Random people comment on my child's haIr colour every time we go out of the house. Although they mean well, her hair colour is not the most important thing about her of course, and I suspect they are only trying to make conversation really. Unfortunately, appearance is what most people notice first though and often seem to feel free to comment on, whether you like it or not. I think all you can do is try to instill in your child the sense that what is inside is a lot more important, and in fact THE most important thing about her/him. Build their confidence about themselves in other areas by praising their strengths. That's all any parent can do really.

Coffee1Sugar Wed 01-May-13 18:46:13

Dd is 2.11 97cms and size 7 feet and was a very average 8lb 3oz at birth and yet EVERYONE comments about how talk she is

My ds is 90cm tall and 14.1kgs. He was 8/13 born, always on the 98th too, and people assume he's 3ish.
I love him being bigger, the only thing that I don't like is that because everyone thinks he's older, they think he's behind as he's not talking properly yet!
Hoping he'll be a rugger player grin

Oh, ds is is 20 months btw smile

resipsa Wed 01-May-13 19:27:03

Oh, we've started on the feet? DD (27 months, 96 cms and 16.5kgs) is in size 8.5H - only two pairs in the shop were in her size and one pair was obviously meant for school sad. Luckily, the other pair was pink with fairies! DH has size 15 (yes, UK not US) feet so it was inevitable...

RugBugs Wed 01-May-13 19:27:07

I'm another who quite likes it when DDs height is commented on by people, I'm 5ft3 and the shortest in my family by some way.
DD is 2.5 and has been in 91st centile for height since she hit a year (she started off in 12th), she's quite slim too with a fine bone structure (another gene she didn't get from me!) which makes her appear taller and older.
She can also run bloody fast, which is always good.

coffeewineandchocolate Wed 01-May-13 19:33:18

ds is 2.3. heis 16.6kg, 96cm and wears 7.5h shoes. dh is 6ft 3 tho and im also tall. he went to hospital on Mon (whole other thread) and none of the medical professionals could believe he was 2! it's very frustrating and I'm sick of hearing 'he's so big!'

Katiepoes Thu 02-May-13 14:44:21

One month off her third birthday my daughter is exactly 1m tall and weighs 15.2kg (3'6 and 33.5lb). Her Dad is 6'6 though and I'm 5'11 so not unexpected. When we visit my family in Ireland people comment on her height all the time, it wears thin, but at home in Holland nobody says a word, it's not at all unusual.

MiaowTheCat Fri 03-May-13 12:43:31

Well, after both of mine's development checks this week - they're BOTH pushing the 98th centile for height. Little one's outgrowing 0-3 month clothes on the length basis at a worrying rate... big one's got some 2-3 year clothes looking short on her and she's 13 months.

If hubby wasn't getting snipped I'd be starting to consider that I was producing the UK women's basketball team in years to come.

And on that note - hubby was visiting his sister at uni and in the bar. My overweight, unfit as fuck husband whose only contact with sport is the fantasy football team he spends fucking hours on... within 2 minutes the uni basketball team were trying to recruit him - just based on him standing there looking impressively tall.

Worst bit of being married to a really really tall, friendly looking guy - it takes bloody hours to get round Asda for little old ladies stopping him to ask him to get stuff off the high shelves!

Hersetta Fri 03-May-13 13:00:51

My DD is a couple of days past 22month and is 92cm and weighs 13.2kgs. He's pretty much following the same lines as his elder sister. She is the youngest in her yr at school (she's a 31/8 birthday) and she is the tallest girl by some margin (she is 5.8 yrs and is 124cm tall and wears 7-8 trousers (although they have to have adjustable waists as she is all leg).

resipsa Fri 03-May-13 14:19:56

Ha! Yup, we get the "could you just reach that for me" when shopping too!

Fazerina Sat 04-May-13 01:19:25

My DS will be 2 in a week. I measured dis height about two months ago and he was 88cm and I think he's about 12.5kg. I think he's pretty much on the 50th centile for both height and weight, but people still comment on how tall he is hmm..

MoelFammau Sun 05-May-13 23:07:39

DD is 2 tomorrow and is 84cm. Titch.

youbethemummylion Sun 05-May-13 23:15:05

DS2 is 3 and is 86cm so I dont think 84cm at 2 is a titch, gave up checking the growth charts when he just kept plummeting downwards so maybe wrong.

CrazyAlien06 Sun 05-May-13 23:22:11

DD is 19 months and 91cm..... I'm 5ft 10" and Dad is 6ft 4"
I do get slightly peeved at people keep commenting about her being tall but I just reply " well she wasnt going to be short was she?! Look at the height of her parents!"

MoelFammau Mon 06-May-13 03:51:57

Well, in our circle she's small, for sure. Titch was maybe a bit harsh but she was still wearing 9-12mo babygrows until 20mo, when she had a little growth spurt and now wears 18mo. I'm 5'8 and DH is 6'2, so it's a bit surprising to people, I think.

hazeyjane Mon 06-May-13 05:42:14

moelfammu, your dd is just under the 50th centile, so average - maybe she just looks petite!

yoube - your ds is on the same centile as my ds. Everyone is shocked when I say how old he is.

youbethemummylion Mon 06-May-13 06:46:23

hazey - its comforting to hear of others in the same boat, people seem really shocked when he behaves like a 3 year old as thet had assumed he was much younger. We tend to have larger kids in this family so he is the same size as his 1 year old cousins!

MoelFammau Mon 06-May-13 13:50:48

Yes I think that's the thing. It's not so much the height of your child, it's the height of the other children in your circle. Comparisons seem to be drawn between kids and have nothing to do with centiles!

Coffee1Sugar Sun 19-May-13 08:16:47

I think dd is a giant. She'll be 3 next week and is 99cms. Can't find her red book atm, where does that place her on the centiles? She's 28lbs.

Princesslazuli Wed 04-Sep-13 18:00:40

My daughter is 26 months is 16.6kg and 98cms!! She's always been between top centiles and has occasionally gone over it. She was born at 9lb 2 and I'm 5ft9 and her dad is 6ft5 smile

brettgirl2 Wed 04-Sep-13 19:27:09

If you look at the centiles 98th percentile at 20 is 176cm. That's 5'91/2. Hardly enormous. Please get a grip and don't give her a complex if she turns out to be tall. I'm 98th for height according to that and for me its normal.

Some of these threads make me wonder if you are allowed to comment on children at all hmm

MiaowTheCat Thu 05-Sep-13 08:54:27

Why the need to comment? Why the need to walk up to an adult and say "oh, you're tall" as if it was some earth shattering revelation.

Dd2 has grown a ridiculous amount since this was posted- she's in 9-12 month clothes today at the age of 5 months and has been mistaken for her sister's twin a couple of times. I've had members of the health visitor team accuse me of being mistaken about her age! She's not fat, it's just sheer length!

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