At what age did you move baby to their own bedroom?

(54 Posts)
spekulatius Wed 20-Feb-13 20:48:22

DD is 3 months old and sleeps in Moses basket in our bedroom. I don't know how long they are suppose to slee0 in it but it seems too small for her already. She doesn't have much room to stretch and quite often is very close to the sides with her face. So I'm thinking of moving her to her cot which is in her bedroom nexy to ours but I think she is too small/young. I'd prefer it if she was in same room as me for a few more months.

So now I'm wondering if I should put the cot in our bedroom or co-sleep?
What have others done? How long should they sleep in parents bedroom? I mean regarding cot death.

JustCallMeFish Wed 20-Feb-13 20:52:08

Both of mine were 15 months. Much to dh horror!smile

In a cot though.

I'd go with your instinct. Though I have a 3 month old too and won't be going away from our room for at least 6 months. But that's my personal choice.

I know someone who put their dc in their own room at 3 months.

Re cot death I don't know what the current age guidelines are tbh. I'm sure someone will be along soon with that.

BertieBotts Wed 20-Feb-13 20:54:08

Guidelines are not to move them until 6 months, because of cot death - for some reason which is unknown the risk is lower if they share your room for at least 6 months.

Verugal Wed 20-Feb-13 20:56:54

7 years and 2 months.


MolotovCocktail Wed 20-Feb-13 20:57:04

It is advised that babies sleep in their paret room fr the first 6 months to lessen the risk of SIDS.

DD1 went into her own room (and from crib to cot) at 6mo. DD2 was almost 9mo ... Held onto her a bit longer in our room smile They share a room now smile

SirBoobAlot Wed 20-Feb-13 20:57:25

Advice is six months minimum to stay in your bedroom because of SIDS.

DS went into his own room at about 13 months when we moved into our home. Even if I'd have had the space before, think I would have kept him in with me till then.

We moved the cot to our room when the Moses basket got too small. Own room about 6 months. I enjoyed reading and chatting at night when they moved!

austenozzy Wed 20-Feb-13 21:01:11

Blimey. DD was 6 weeks old, and went into a moses basket in a cot. She was sleeping from 7pm to 7am by 3 months. The only time that changed was when we took the sides off her cot at 20 months due to her being able to climb out, whereupon she enjoyed her new-found freedom for a few nights. Then it was back to sleeping like a log!

memberofthestowmassiv Wed 20-Feb-13 21:04:34

I found it really hard to sleep with a baby in the room, but i wanted to follow the SIDS guidelines. So, DS1 was moved out the week he turned 6m grin (he'd been in a cot in our room till then).

When DS2 came along we didn't have anywhere else to put him so he stayed in our room until he was 10m and we moved house.

I'm now quite sad that I'll never have a tiny baby sleeping in my room again sad.

gillian88 Wed 20-Feb-13 21:05:14

My friend had her baby in its own room from birth shock

My ds was 9 months when we moved him in his own room, dd is currently 6 months and a terrible sleeper so she will remain in our room for the foreseeable future!!

Once they outgrew the Moses basket we put the cot in our room, bit of a squeeze but sure it's not gonna be forever! X

Iggly Wed 20-Feb-13 21:05:59

I slept in DD's room until she was 9/10 months. (she woke a lot so easier to deal with).

With ds he went into his room at 7/8 months having slept in ours.

neontetra Wed 20-Feb-13 21:16:49

My dd stayed in my room till 6 months. Moved her then, against my better judgement, to see if it would help her sleep more (it did). Have to say though, most people I mentioned this to, such as colleagues and people in my village, were shocked we had kept her in so long! Even the HVs at the baby group i went to were pretty open to the idea of babies being in their own room sooner, which surprised me a little, given the guidelines. Personally, if the cot will fit in your room, I would move it in, just to be on the safe side.

StarNoodle Wed 20-Feb-13 21:23:21

Dc1 was about 15 months, dc2 was 11 months. Neither slept in a moses basket at all, dc 1 was in a cot and co.slept part of the night, dc2 co slept completely until 9 months, then went in a cot next to.the.bed, then into his own room when we moved house.

diamondsneezer Wed 20-Feb-13 21:32:44

Mine were all in a cot from day 1 and the cot was moved out earlier and earlier. DC1 was 5 months - fab sleeper but we were disturbing him when we went to bed and DC4 was about 3 months.

I liked being able to put the light on, read, etc. and as we've always had an ensuite we seemed to make a lot of noise going to bed!

I followed all of the other SIDS guidelines, baby on back, foot to bottom of the bed, no duvets, pillows, no overheating, etc. and the babies were all term and big babies so I felt confident about it. But... the guidelines are there for a reason.

ZuleikaD Thu 21-Feb-13 09:10:14

We never bothered with a Moses basket either - straight to the Nature's Nest which was awesome. Both DCs moved out to their own rooms when they were sleeping through the night, so at about 10 months.

Both DS1 and DD were 15 months when they moved out of our room. In DS1s case I didn't want to move him until he was sleeping through, but in the end got fed up of not having any floor space in the bedroom and turfed him out, despite him still waking at least once a night.

For DD I was still waiting for DS1 to sleep through- I didn't want him disturbing her sleep (they share a room).

DS2 will be in with us for about the same time, or until the older two are big enough for bunk beds-whichever comes first.

SurreyWithAFringeOnTop Thu 21-Feb-13 09:36:21

We are at the same stage with DS2 - he is also pretty squashed in his Moses basket so we are moving him into his cot, which is in our room. It is a bit tight as our bedroom is not huge, but we do want to keep him in with us until at least six months. If he isn't sleeping through at that point, we'll probably keep him in with us until he does.

ComradeJing Thu 21-Feb-13 09:39:35

Never used a Moses but do have a stokke sleepi so <shrug>

Dd was 2. She often went to sleep in her room but came in sometime in the night with us. Either dh or I would go get her.

I do the same with Ds now (3 months). He goes down in the nursery but I bring him in when we go to sleep.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 21-Feb-13 09:41:23

We had an Amby nest which DS1 stayed in until 6 months and then went into his own room.

DS2 was in the nest for a while, but learnt to turn himself over in it, so we bought a space saver cot for £90 including mattress from Kiddicare, and he was in with us until he was 14 months - and then we moved the boys in together.

Personally I wouldn't but a baby in their own room at 3 months.

FirstTimeForEverything Thu 21-Feb-13 09:45:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

breward Thu 21-Feb-13 09:51:48

5days. After going to bed exhausted at 9 pm. Ds was fed, changed, the right temperature etc and still crying. After half an hour I picked up the Moses basket, put it in the spare room and shut the door. The next thing I heard was him waking up at 2 am for a feed. We all got a better night sleep for being in separate rooms and so it stayed like that from 5 days onwards. Still remember the night nearly 11 years later!

I loved night feeds, it was one of highlights of my children's baby years, and being in another room meant we could chat etc without waking OH. He rarely heard me get up but I had a sixth sense to hear the baby cry in the night.

Shanghaidiva Thu 21-Feb-13 09:57:54

From birth.

Bumpsadaisie Thu 21-Feb-13 13:36:48

7 months.

BigSpork Thu 21-Feb-13 13:59:32

First two it was about 18 months. Straight from co-sleeping to own beds.
3rd it was a year. Co-slept to a sidecot in our room around 7 or so month.
4th it was around 9 months. Straight from co-sleeping to own bed with foam rails.

dairymilk27 Thu 21-Feb-13 14:16:02

DD1 was 11 weeks, DD2 at 9 weeks, found that everyone slept better, have monitor in our room for DD2 who is now 19 weeks so can hear if she wakes in the night, works for us grin

curiousgeorgie Thu 21-Feb-13 14:59:11

My DD was too long for her Moses basket at less than three months so we bought a crib and she stayed in that in our room for over a year. smile

I didn't want her to leave us and she slept through through the night (8-8/9) from about 10 weeks so it was a joy really!

I'm expecting DD2 and hope to have her in our room that long too.

steben Thu 21-Feb-13 19:19:28

8 weeks and 5 weeks - everyone slept a lot better! We also have one if those sensor mat monitors for extra peace of mind

CrunchyFrog Thu 21-Feb-13 19:20:56

Mine were 18 months, 3.5 years and 4 year old Final Child is currently about 50/50 my bed/his bed.

Co-sleeping is great. grin

5madthings Thu 21-Feb-13 19:28:03

Ours went into their own bed between 2-3yrs old and co-slept till.then. Dd is 26mths and still in our bed, we have a toddler bed in our room.for her but its generally got a pile of clean laundry on it...

DD went into her own room at 8 weeks in her Moses basket, and into her cot at 11 weeks - she had outgrown the basket and slept better on the cot mattress (the Moses basket mattress was so thin). We all slept better actually, because DD has inherited her father's snoring talent! grin

DD1 went into her own room after we left hospital (5 days) DD2 totally different baby/situation and stayed in our room for 8 months.

DanniiH Fri 22-Feb-13 10:02:52

Ds slept through from 8 weeks and was too big for Moses basket by then so went in to his own room then too. I believe you need grown up time so co sleeping isn't my cup of tea. I'll be doing similar with this baby too. I think if you do want to keep them in your room for the 6 months a travel cot is a good option. x ps I believe that them sleeping in your room reduces the risk of SIDS because they mimic your breathing so less chance of them stopping breathing in their sleep.

Fuzzymum1 Fri 22-Feb-13 12:27:52

DS1 was a few months old (but that was 19 years ago) DS2 was about 5 months and DS3 was nearly two and a half. We had nowhere else to put him until then.

willyoulistentome Fri 22-Feb-13 12:35:32

2 weeks with first and 3 months with second. Number two was only in with us so long due to his room being so hot in the summer and his night feeds waking number one up.
I just could not sleep with them in the room with us. We kept all waking each other up all night.

moomoo2013 Fri 22-Feb-13 20:06:01

My Daughter 6 weeks has had her own room since 2 weeks. It seemed best for night feeding. I keep the moses with me/us in the living room during the day can I ask if other netmums do this? Or do you go up and down stairs all day? feeding/napping?

BertieBotts Fri 22-Feb-13 23:55:25

DS used to nap downstairs, never had naps in his cot.

I must be an old softy but I couldn't imagine putting a tiny baby on their own in a room to sleep. Don't you miss them? blush

tigersmummy Sat 23-Feb-13 09:11:33

Guidelines are 6 months - DS moved at 11 weeks and dd has just moved at 4 months. I would have kept her in with us longer but she likes to sleep with her arms splayed out, so more room in her cot, and we were disturbing her during the night. We have a monitor so it's like she is right next to me. Personal preference though; go with your instincts. One friend had DS sleeping from day one in his own room and sister in law just moved her DS in with his sibling at 13 months - both children are happy, healthy and have good parent attachment.

CotherMuckingFunt Sat 23-Feb-13 09:14:56

Both of mine went in their own room at 7 weeks. Ds went through from that night onwards and dd went down to one feed a night after that.

5madthings Sat 23-Feb-13 09:48:44

bertie i will join you in the softie camp i couldnt bear to have put them in another room! During the day they slept in the carrycot on the pram or in my arms or in a sling or occasionally the bouncy chair.

OhMyNoReally Sat 23-Feb-13 09:55:27

All of mine went in their own cot from about 4-6 weeks with a monitor near them. I turned it up very loud so I heard every noise. I think you put them in their own cot when you feel their ready, for me that was when the breaks in feeding started to become every 3-4 hours, rather than every 1-2 hours.

YeahBuddy Sat 23-Feb-13 10:38:20

My DTs were in Moses baskets in my room until they grew out of them at four months. I have a bunk cot for them that wouldn't fit in my room so I moved them to their own room then but by that time they were sleeping through anyway.

4TheLoveOfBob Sat 23-Feb-13 10:43:29

DC1 was about 7/8 months - moved him to own room when we realised we were all waking each other up with every snore/sniffle/movement.

DC2 was 15 months. She was a great sleeper but I just got used to her being in the cot beside my bed and only moved her to her own room under duress from DH, really :-)

SarahJinx Sat 23-Feb-13 11:06:42

Ds 21 months is still in with us, when he outgrew his Moses basket we squeezed in a cot. I can't imagine him not being there now so it might be a while......

Guidelines re first six months are to do with babies learning to regulate their breathing I thought?

tazmo Sat 23-Feb-13 16:56:03

Mine was 9 weeks with first one as couldn't sleep at all with them in the room. A bit longer with dd2 and 3. Prob about 3 months. Mainly because I can cope a bit better in my room. If the baby is a healthy weight, shouldn't really be too many issues moving before 6 months.

Lionsntigersnbears Sat 23-Feb-13 17:27:50

5 months, when we realised we were all keeping each other awake. She was fine about it grin

spekulatius Sat 23-Feb-13 18:25:12

Thanks everyone. My friend has lend me a crib which is bigger so we will try it tonight. Will fit in our bedroom easily so we can keep her with us for a few more months. She was sleeping through every single night from 6-10 weeks but last 3 weeks has been waking up during night again so it will be easier if she is next to me.

birdsofshore Sat 23-Feb-13 18:28:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Mrsrobertduvall Sat 23-Feb-13 18:34:27

From birth.

nicki1978 Sun 24-Feb-13 07:52:23

Our DS was in his own room at 2 weeks. It was fine first two weeks whilst DH was off work but then they were both waking each other up so we took the decision to put him in his own room.

We also noticed that DS went to sleep at around the same time each evening so we put him into a bedtime routine and he loves it.

Now, at 20 mths, he goes to bed at 6pm, sleeps until around 3am, has a bottle goes straight back off until 7am.

moomoo2013 Sun 24-Feb-13 14:33:17

My daughter has been in her own room since about 2 weeks. I keep her in the moses basket with me during the day can I ask if this is what other mumsnetters do or do we take baby up to bed for naps in the day?

Bluemary3000 Sun 24-Feb-13 23:13:44

Dd was 6 wks, silent sleeper, slept long periods of time from birth. Ds was 2 wks as my god he was the noisiest sleeper ever and kept us awake. Both of mine slept in a cot downstairs with me during the day until they settled into good daytime napping routines. At 12 wks both were put to bed at their bedtimes in their cots in order just to get them used to it.

From about 5 days. And we all started sleeping for much longer stretches. As for the poster asking wouldn't I miss the baby - erm, no, not really, mainly cos I was asleep!

As soon as DD slept through from 11pm to 5am - she was six weeks old (to the horror of HV who insisted a bf baby needed waking every four hours - no time limit, just 'every four hours as long as she's bf') hmm

It was an adjoining room with a big double door into ours that was kept open though, so I'm not sure how much it counts as 'her own room'!

flipflopson5thavenue Mon 25-Feb-13 10:37:30

Cot in our room at 3 weeks (moses basket too small). Just moved house 3 days ago and put him in his own room simply because that's where his cot was unpacked. He's just 7mo.

Was sort of thinking we'd keep him in travel cot in our room for a week or so while we all settle in, then move him into his room. In the end we co slept the first night for warmth (it was our first time - it was warm and toasty and he slept for 6 hrs straight - I can see why people co sleep..!), and he's been in his own room the last two nights.

And he has woken up several times a night, crying, inconsolable. I don't know if it is the new room, not being in with us and being able to hea us breathing/smell us, the fact that he's got a cold, might be teething... but he's never done this before. Now I wish I'd kept him in with us until he was more used to the new house. However, have done two nights now in his room, and he eventually does settle, so feel like we need to finish what we've started. Even if I feel terrible and that I've somehow traumatised him forever :-(

Anyway, that's my own sob story!!

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