what are the parenting challenges you are dealing with at the moment?

(58 Posts)
driedapricots Mon 17-Dec-12 06:29:11

in the spirit of 'this too shall pass' i wondered what issues we are all currently trying to work thru..mine; stroppyness & dramatic meltdowns from 5 yo (tbf this has been going on for 4 yrssad ...& early Morning waking for milk with 2.5yo...e.g 4am..ugh. (obv minor compared to those with v v serious issues, i dont mean this thread to offend anyone in that situation of course)

ScillyCow Mon 17-Dec-12 06:52:54

3 year old DTs fighting with each other. DT1 wanting to get in bed with me and snuggle every night at about 2am. (That one's not too bad, actually, except I end up without any bed perched on the edge). smile

TeeElfOnTeeShelf Mon 17-Dec-12 07:18:49

Toilet training and tantrums.

HoratiaLovesBabyJesus Mon 17-Dec-12 07:21:18

DS2 sleep. Specifically, wanting to get up at five o'clock when he is still knackered. Resisting all attempts at sleep training, even those that worked for DS1 hmm

gazzalw Mon 17-Dec-12 07:25:36

To those of you who have very early morning risers, it will pass. Our DS was a 3.30 - 4.00 am early riser until he started full-time at school (in fact we went to see The Impossible on Saturday - all about the 2004 Tsunami and DW reminded us that she and DS were up at some unearthly hour as the story was breaking). I'm surprised we survived those years sometimes but we did. He still gets up at 6.00 am but that's a lot easier to cope with and entirely necessary now he's at secondary school and has to commute ;-).

DS and DD still bicker all of the time and it's very tiring....You cannot relax for more than ten minutes before there's fall-out from some argument....GRRRRR.

kirrinIsland Mon 17-Dec-12 07:32:30

Tantrums. Just starting now so a new experience for me. I had no idea that things like which spoon to use and which coat to wear were so important!

JellyMould Mon 17-Dec-12 07:38:35

Ds - pooing in his night nappy instead of on the toilet (ie holding it in during the day). Tantrums. 3.5 yrs.
Dd (4 months) waking at 4:30am for the day.

Skiffen Mon 17-Dec-12 07:45:37

Dd1 (3) can do NOTHING without argument/discussion/bargaining/tantrum.

Dd2 is in hospital

DS (8 but developmentally about 6yrs old) autistic meltdowns
DD (3) food fussiness

lidlqueen Mon 17-Dec-12 09:29:53

DS (14) being an arse at school and i keep getting called to meetings where the teachers look about 9....

Imaginethat Mon 17-Dec-12 09:33:33

OP my 5yo is having rather a lot of stroppy moments too. Never had this with my daughter, wondering how long it'll go on...


And that's not even mentioning the major stuff like SN assessments and chronic bedwetting.

We are in a bit of a quiet patch right now, except some cheekiness in DD1 3.11.

Early rising passes. DD1 was up from 5 am for years. She now sleeps in and makes us all late because she was my alarm clock and I keep forgetting to set a real one grin

Watching this thread to see what I have to look forward to!

CharlotteBronteSaurus Mon 17-Dec-12 10:56:33

dd2 (2.1) is throwing things. all the bloody time. food, shoes, crockery, you name it. And she wakes at least once nightly to ask to come into bed with us.

dd1 (5.8) is quite socially awkward, so am working on the basics with her, like the fact that kids are more likely to want to be her friend if she actually responds when they say hello.

GaryBuseysTeeth Mon 17-Dec-12 10:57:32

DS (almost 1), refusing to nap during the day & then waking up pissed off in the middle of the night, grumpy, because he's tired.
At least this thread has shown me the wonders that await me in the years ahead <wibbles>

Skiffen, hope Dd2 in hospital is nothing too serious?

EdithWeston Mon 17-Dec-12 11:11:46

DS2 might be entering puberty: he's spent all weekend holed up in his room, barely grunting to the rest of us but still managing to strop with his little sister. We're going to have a lovely hols!

IWillOnlyEatBeans Mon 17-Dec-12 18:39:10

Sleepwalking (DS - 2.10) - we had a put a stairgate up for the first time ever!
Also night terrors.
Poor little soul!

BackforGood Mon 17-Dec-12 18:45:30

TTrying to get ds (16) out of bed in the mornings.
The other 2 seem to be doing ok at the moment (touch wood!)

Greensleeves Mon 17-Dec-12 18:48:36

ds1 is turning my hair white at the moment, he seems to have developed Kevin attitude - lots of head-tossing, stomping, "you just don't GEDDIT DO YOU" - he's 10, Aspie and pedantic and NEVER backs down (like me)

both boys are lazy and slovenly (though gorgeous and witty and loving) and spread their possessions around the school/playground/world with gay abandon

NOTHING is ever their fault

their room is a public health hazard and they weep piteously and make insultingly feeble attempts if asked to clean it up

And the old "Black Peter is watching you" is starting to wear thin this year!

CockyPants Mon 17-Dec-12 18:57:44

DD 6 arguing and answering back
Not listening
Not doing things in first time of asking
Not self feeding she would rather read or do maths....
Stopping finger sucking before adult teeth come in.

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Mon 17-Dec-12 18:58:30

DD2 (2.10) has been totally knocked off her stride by the arrival of DD3 (5 months).

A formerly happy-go-lucky sunny-natured child is sullen and sometimes refuses to engage at all. sad She's also off her food.

I'm home at the moment and doing so much with her. I thought we were making progress, but she has a cold at the moment and it all seems to have unraveled.

The big and the small seem happy enough for now.

Ds (6) and dd (2 years 10 months) bickering constantly, had no idea it would start this early and it's never ending - literally starts the minute they wake up - had them both on time out at 7.30am a couple of weeks ago - far too early for all that!

Trying to potty train dd and having the usual ups and downs, sure we'll get there eventually???

Ds goes from being a stroppy bugger to being an adorable angel and then back to being stroppy in the blink of an eye; hoping its just end of term tiredness.

By early, I meant at age 2 and 6, although starting as soon as they wake up also drives me nuts!

AnyaKnowIt Mon 17-Dec-12 19:23:10

DD 22 months has started to answer me back


Cachaca Mon 17-Dec-12 19:34:54

Ragingly hormonal dd2 (11), who can find something miserable in the happiest situation, and who has developed a streak of bitter, twisted jealousy that's a mile wide. Almost revels in petty injustices, glass permanently half-empty. Comes home from school every day with a new tale of woe, usually embellished to make it as bad as possible. "Today everybody else got a packet of sweets from the teacher, except me. I only got one... and she gave me a horrible look when I tried to get another one... and it had been dropped on the floor..." And when I ask/remind her to do something you can nearly see it sailing in one ear and out the other.

Surprisingly, her 14 year old sister is a delight just now, but has health problems (2 lots of surgery next year, probably) that we're worried about).

I'm reminding myself that dd1 was horrible at 11 as well (completely ruined our once-in-a-lifetime big family holiday).

Tolly81 Mon 17-Dec-12 20:07:07

No sleep with teething DD (7 mo). I got 2.5 hours last night. I can manage quite well on 5 but 2.5 doesn't cut it. She was doing the early mornings before she stopped sleeping altogether. Daytime naps hard work too but hoping its all teething related. She's still a jolly baby though despite it and this post is good for reminding me to enjoy her now!! CockyPants - I thought for a minute you had 6 DDs grin - thought you were doing well if it was only number 6 that was causing trouble!

steben Mon 17-Dec-12 20:19:27

Horrific tantrums from DD1 2.10 since the arrival of DD2 9 weeks ago - every bed and breakfast time is an epic battle and she throws some terrible strips in the night too (usually inbetween dd2 wake ups ensuring I get as little sleep as humanly possible). This is also causing problems with my and DH as we argue over best way to tackle it!

steben Mon 17-Dec-12 20:21:36

Strops rather....smile

ConstantCraving Mon 17-Dec-12 21:02:49

Where to start....Potty refusal, food refusal, social niceties refusal, cutlery refusal!! (DD is 3 yrs old)

sheeplikessleep Mon 17-Dec-12 21:08:23

5 year old ds1 is answering back, whining when he doesn't get his own way. Oh and blowing raspberries at me when I say something he doesn't want to hear!

Ds2 is 3 in march. He refuses to walk back from school drop off for his brother as he wants to stay. Back in buggy. Also he laughs at me when I tell him off. So frustrating. He is in a very much physical resistance phase.

Sharksandfishes Mon 17-Dec-12 21:19:14

4mo DS2 going through sleep regression and not settling at night at all.
3.10 DS1 dealing with the massive changes of switching from having a sahd to having a sahm and a new baby brother, by losing his temper all the time, throwing things, hitting and shouting. Oh, and waking up at 5am (usually just as I manage to get DS2 back to sleep)
Life is not fun in our house, I think they may be trying to kill me!

driedapricots Mon 17-Dec-12 21:38:23

well it appears Its universal then. very reassuring...tho was naively hoping the 6-10 years might be the golden ones..clearly not!

BabyGiraffes Mon 17-Dec-12 21:42:02

5 year old - constant answering back. She is also intensely jealous of her 2 year old sister's chickenpox hmm.

TheSecondComing Mon 17-Dec-12 21:44:38

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Unlurked Mon 17-Dec-12 22:01:18

Dd1 (4yo) keeps hitting dd2. We only have occasional issues with socialising with other kids now, she actually talks to them now where she used to put on an abstract mime/dance performance (which was hilarious to watch but didnt win her many friends).

Dd2 is 2 and a half, we're currently dealing with night terrors, nightmares, sleep talking, refusing to go to bed/sleep and waking everyone in the street house for hours at a time during the night. Actually now I've written that down I can kind of see why dd1 keeps hitting her... grin

happygolucky0 Mon 17-Dec-12 22:04:03

Ds15 at a terrible rebel stage. Can't ask him to do anything without an arguement. Trying to keep him from having under age sex with his girlfriend while I am at work.... oh the joys of parenthood.

timetosmile Mon 17-Dec-12 22:06:38

Oh happy now you have really put the wind up the parents of toddlers who hadn't even thought about teenage sex.... grin

Badvocsanta Mon 17-Dec-12 22:07:48

Lack of sleep
Constant illnesses which worry me senseless.

Fedupnagging Mon 17-Dec-12 22:10:09

Ds1 (18) treating the house like a hotel

Ds2(16) doing no work whatsoever for mock gcse's, general laziness and winding up ds3.

Ds3 (13) stroppy, contrary, argumentative, winding up ds2

Finally, the continued and sustained bickering and fighting whenever they are in the vicinity of each other.

Can cope with all of the above except the constant fighting-it really gets me down and forces me to drink wine grin

sparkle12mar08 Mon 17-Dec-12 22:10:49

Sheer, brainless, thoughtless stupidity from ds1 age 6.10. He just doesn't think about anything, and it's driving me stark raving bonkers. He doesn't read the signs, the body language, the tone of voice, and repeated warnings about his behaviour, and then gets devestatedly upset about the punishment/consequences! He seems to have no levers, nothing that I can use to incentivise behaviour, because he is so in the moment he just doesn't see it. Urgh.

BubblesAndBeans Mon 17-Dec-12 22:13:16

DD (11 months) waking up in the middle of the night wanting to play peek-a-boo, sometimes awake for hours on end before falling asleep again.

Ruprekt Mon 17-Dec-12 22:15:23

10y old wanting a Galaxy Ace phone and giving us attitude!

8y old telling us he knows everything and so is pretty unteachable at home.


Lack of help with jobs.

this too will pass, this too will pass..........

FloralWellies Mon 17-Dec-12 22:18:40

DS (2.2) doesn't speak although understand everything we say and hearing is tested and fine SALT next
Also always wants to sleep with us so wiggles his way in between us about 3am. DP and i are going to buy a bigger bed so we can sleep without clinging onto the edge of the mattress (Too tiring to keep returning him to bed <weak> )

Micha54178 Mon 17-Dec-12 22:21:37

14 year old grumpy, won't tidy bedroom, major attitude

4 year old tries to come in to our bed at 4.30

12 week old refuses to sleep for more than three hours at night!

ellee Mon 17-Dec-12 22:30:16

3yo ds speech issues, the whining doesn't make me want to understand him better sad

Wyo dd climbing endlessly everything, counch, tables, window sills, also terrible food thrower and used to be a bit of a nibbler though that seems to be dying away now...

ellee Mon 17-Dec-12 22:44:56

That's a 1 yo dd!

TheSecondComing Mon 17-Dec-12 23:09:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Badvocsanta Tue 18-Dec-12 07:26:27

TSC...sorry to hear that sad we ended up in a and e with ds2 on Sunday. He is still coughing, still got a temp and yet his chest is clear...sigh. Giving it til tomorrow then am taking him back to gp.

ChristmasKnackers Tue 18-Dec-12 07:41:31

2.5 year old tantrums and reading this has made me dread the impending four month mark with DS2......

Getting my 11yo DD to do anything (another pretreen with raging hormones?).

Convincing my DS (7) that he doesn't have to won every single game of Monopoly!

AnotherMonkey Tue 18-Dec-12 10:02:03

Good thread.

Here, another previously happy, funny, laid back boy who has been knocked sideways by baby sister.

Tantrums, whining, doing stuff he knows he shouldn't while staring at you like a lunatic. He's also started telling tales but does it on himself too (eg [in best whiny voice] "mummy I hit BabyMonkeeeeeey I hit, muummmy". He didn't, I was right there hmm ). Although he has started doing that too, sometimes. Short of packing his new sister up in a box and sending her back, I really couldn't give him more love and attention. This too shall pass (please please please let it be soon).

This is especially fun with extended sleep deprivation.

DD not very well, I feel so sorry for her at the moment and she's a grizzly bear.

Emsmaman Tue 18-Dec-12 10:30:21

Still terrible sleep with DD 20mo. I was overjoyed she slept 9pm-3am as I got a decent stretch. We also get the wide awake in the middle of the night thing regularly, 2 hours plus. Would be fine if she just nattered to herself but she wants company.

DD bites, kicks, hits and pulls my hair. Since her way of apologising is giving a hug, she now seems to be deliberately hitting in order to get a hug.

Every week is a new f*cking cold/virus whatever. She's just over chicken pox and now has a cold. All attempts at sleep training get sidelined after a few days when she catches something and becomes a clingy mess again.

Skiffen Tue 18-Dec-12 11:21:05

Thanks gary - worsening of long term condition, so they want to step everything up a bit which is worrying and disappointing as we had been doing well.

Home now, but dd1 is punishing my absence by ignoring me and being daddy-focused.

alardi Tue 18-Dec-12 12:55:56

This sounds so awful, there are lots & lots of good things about them, too, but in terms of things I wish I could fix...

Teenager: Generally selfish self-centred lazy demanding bad tempered git.

Preteen: lying, suspected petty thefts, high strung

middle school child: annoying to others, has no friends sad. Hot temper.

reception child: Picking at own face causing scars, doesn't eat a varied diet. Very Minor compared to others' problems, though.

naughtynancy Tue 18-Dec-12 14:22:00

DS (2.1) - regressing on potty training (had been fully trained before 2), also dropping his daytime nap.

ellesabe Tue 18-Dec-12 18:17:09

Dd1 (2.1yo) has stopped napping and dd2 (6wo) has muddled her night and day so I get almost NO sleep at the moment <crawls into the corner to cry>

naughtynancy Tue 18-Dec-12 19:37:49

elle I have a 12 wk old as well so feel your pain!

BikeRunSki Tue 18-Dec-12 19:43:40

Very bored September born 4 yo who was more than ready for school this year, missed this intake by a week, and is fed up. He is getting disruptive and rude. He runs around and screechs continuously and can not seem to focus or concentrate on anything other than TV. As for doing what he's asked.... Coupled with life long reluctance to eat, and a curious, climbing 1 yo who rarely sleeps more than 3 hours at a stretch.

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