Toddler acts as if deaf

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 14:35:24

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DD is 21 months and I know she can hear ok and I know she knows her own name, but she never responds when I speak/call her name. She doesn't look up or anything. It's like my voice just disappears between my mouth and her ears.

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 14:42:53

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Well, she can hear the word chocolate whispered half a mile away, so I know there's nothing wrong with her hearing. I think maybe she's so used to having me there (SAHM) that she doesn't listen out for my voice at all. She responds very quickly to DH calling her.

SamSmalaidh Thu 01-Nov-12 14:47:34

Yes, selective hearing! I don't ask the same question over and over, just touch them/get in their line of sight so they can't ignore you.

Remember that at 2 they don't yet understand that ignoring someone is rude - if they aren't interested in what you are saying they might not see the point in responding.

IWillOnlyEatBeans Thu 01-Nov-12 14:54:55

My DS (2.8) does this. He's got a cold at the minute so actually is slightly deaf, which makes it even worse!

I agree about getting right down in front of them to speak, or getting their attention some other way first. It is frustrating, as I end up speaking to him in a loud voice and he then asks why I am cross...sigh...

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:01:05

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:04:57

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gourd Thu 01-Nov-12 15:11:52

Heh heh! Ours can always hear the words "Cake" or "Ice cream" even when whispered in another room, but not "Don't do that please", "Be gentle", "On the plate, not on the floor, please" "No!" etc...

kissyfur Thu 01-Nov-12 15:13:57

My DD does this too, she 2.10 - it's infuriating! I feel like a broken record

gourd Thu 01-Nov-12 15:14:56

According to EYFS framework it's normal up to about 22 MO for kids to become so engrrossed in something that they dont seem to hear you (not sure ours ever showed this, but it can be normal). If you don't already try always using the child's name when talking to them, and see if that grabs their attention.

amillionyears Thu 01-Nov-12 15:20:39

What is he like with other people and other children?

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:28:19

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:31:59

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:33:48

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amillionyears Thu 01-Nov-12 15:39:28

Is he happy when he is doing his own thing?

One of my DDs is very sociable, but she also likes to retreat to her own room for an hour plus, at least a couple of times a day.
She has always been like this.

amillionyears Thu 01-Nov-12 15:42:36

Does he have siblings
Does he play with other children
Does he go to nursery/playgroup

DoubleYew Thu 01-Nov-12 15:50:07

How is his speech? Paed told me that sometimes children with delayed speech blank you because its just too overwhleming not being able to communicate back.

If you are worried about his development, make a list of everything that is concerning you and take it to gp. Could be just "him" or could be a sign of something.

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:52:13

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:54:03

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Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 15:59:25

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amillionyears Thu 01-Nov-12 16:17:08

Does he have and like storytime with you?

Is he talkative at home?
Is he happy doing his own thing.
Does he interact much with his brother
What is he like when he is hungry, is communication between you and him fine in those circumstances?

Does he act as if he is engrossed in whatever he does

Sorry for all the questions,I am not a professional btw, just trying to see the big picture.

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 16:30:32

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wingcommandermoi Thu 01-Nov-12 16:43:14

I get the same from my 4 year old and have just got a referral for a hearing test.
He has had a few ear infections and mostly has colds constantly. I'm concerned there might be a link. Maybe he needs gromets. Same for yours perhaps?

Elizabeth22 Thu 01-Nov-12 20:20:00

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