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is that normal? am having some time off from lo now on computer and can hear my lo laughing his head off like i have never !!!heard....ever i past 2 years

hgave i been doing it all wrong being the disciplanarian? think he must be so unhappy with me ..never heard him laugh like that

they are playing and true i dont get the time/chance to do it likie they do but still i have never heard him laugh like this befoe ever!

It is the novelty!

Please don't think he is unhappy with you. My DS1 grumps and moans like a mini kevin the teenager with me, it's because they are so secure in your love.

They can be more relaxed with him , not worry so much about the consequences and he takes your constant presence for granted. He can even be a bit naughty in a way you will not tolerate. The downside of being a mum is that you are ever vigilant , anticipating the dangers and consequences in a way that gp's and toddlers tend not to, they live for the moment.

Remember laughter and smiles are infectious. You can create opportunities to enjoy, a tickling fight, a spontaneous game of peekaboo, create your own gobbledegook language and silly voices, make things out of playdoh and guess what they are, even getting down to his innocent, childish level and splashing in muddy puddles yourself or chasing around in the park in the wind.

If I may say so you seem overly concerned , at least from what you post on here which may well only be a very small representation, that he isn't behaving well or developing normally, that you have let him down in some obscure way, and maybe he sense that stress. If you can relax and allow both of you some freedom you may find that it just follows.

There's a book you might like to read - called Playful Parenting, if you feel you've become a bit bogged down with the boring stuff (which, to be fair, is our job as a mum ...)

will def look up that book!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks to liz too!!!!!!!!!!but yes today he is happy sometimes with me but boy oh boy never in the way i heard yest with gps

never seen anything like it!

giggles galore!

looks great and going to read it - just wonder if it is suitable for two year olds or mainly about teenagers/kids

No, I think it will help with the toddler stuff as well - how to get their co-operation with doing things without having a confrontation.

Good luck x

bumbly - You are not the only one... I only recently let DS1 (21 months old) spend the weekend with the inlaws. I was slightly worried but oh my god, he loved it! Now he points to the door and says 'grandad' meaning he wants to go to theirs right now... Obviously he has no concept of time and space and they are an hour away...

They came to visit on Wednesday, played all day and he cried to go home with them at the end of the day. Gosh, they must think I am the worst parent in the world as my DS1 is only too willing to go home with them... Oh well, look at the positives this way... Maybe you can send your LO to them for the weekend sometime to get some 'me' time? Cos that's what I intend to do from now on. LOL!

my 14 month old is like this - in fact if DP and myself walk into a room with his grandad he will ignore us and put his arms up to grandad!

He is at his GPs two days a week and its all play and walks and stories and he makes it very clear that he doesn't want to go home with us in the evening. Makes us feel a bit rubbish but on the good side at least he has 2 grandparents that he loves very much and feels very happy with.

boogie and angel

my lo is exactly as you say!!!!!!!!!!!

exactly

does make you feel rubbish but nice that he loves someone!!!

bumbly - Just think how difficult your life would be if your DS refused to go with anyone else but you... I'm actually really proud that DS1 is so social and loves people... I can see he will be a popular boy when he's older. So take heart!

hmmm but he actyuakky onky gets on with gps...other kids he hits..see other thread

but angel thanks for post!!! just he loves gp but at mo having personality probs with me and other toddlers