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"dolly hit dolly"

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SenoraPostrophe · 14/06/2005 20:03

dd said this earlier. And then shouted "no, naughty" at the dolly that did the hitting and smacked her.

I was quite taken aback. Dd doesn't get smacked (apart from a very occasional tap if she's doing something dangerous). Normally if she hits ds she gets removed. Like I say though it may be the case that she has been lightly smacked on two occasions at most (can't think of one though - I feel very strongly that violence should not be used as a punishment).

Do you think I should have a word with the woman at nursery? Or the childminder (untrained - comes to the house while I work in the basement)? How should I put it?

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helsi · 14/06/2005 20:06

OMG so wierd we are having this dilemma at the moment so I'll watch this thread with interest,

dd has started lightly smacking at the moment and I am wondering whether to have a word with childminder as its the only place I could think she got it from (other kids smacking - not childminder!!)

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morningpaper · 14/06/2005 20:07

My dd frequently shouts awful things at her toys and often puts them across the other side of the room when they've been naughty. I've no idea where she gets it from. I think it's just acting out. I wouldn't worry too much.

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SenoraPostrophe · 14/06/2005 20:10

she smacked dolly quite hard (all her dolls are called dolly).

Perhaps I shouldn't worry. Could be other kids at nursery.

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morningpaper · 14/06/2005 21:03

I would say "We don't hit people do we" or something and ask her where she's heard someone say/do that before. Is she likely to give you any help if you try that?

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sobernow · 14/06/2005 21:14

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Prufrock · 14/06/2005 22:24

Sp - my dd has never been smacked - I know I haven't and I am confident that neither of the very professional nurseries she has been in would ever contemplate it. Yet she still told me the other day that we should smack ds for being naughty (he's got a fixation with the back of the TV at the moemnt and I seem to spend my entire day moving him away). So I don't think her sudden liking of smacking as a form of discipline means anything. I would just tell her that "we don't smack" and start a discussion on what you do do, as a family, to punish naughty behaviour. (Dd's latest was to tell ds taht if he threw his food on the floor one more time he would go on the step, because "mummy has just already cleaned the floor today")

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SenoraPostrophe · 15/06/2005 08:49

Thanks sobernow and prufrock.

Perhaps you're right. She does seem to hit ds less frequently now, so maybe it is some form of subjugation. I did tell her that she should just tell dolly off.

I will ask her, but she is having a bit of an imaginitive stage in general at the moment. She has a mark on her back that I'm pretty sure she got while doing headstands on her bed, but she said daddy did it (and I know he didn't). Then she said ds did it.

I'm not at all sure she hasn't got it from nursery though. She's in a class of 20 and ds often comes home with bite marks etc (apparently he bites first usually).

Anyway - ds went through a back of the telly stage too. He's over that now, and more into moving chairs around so he can climb on things.