Mumsnet Discussions - Saying "NO!" - Behaviour / development

Start new thread within this topic | Watch this thread | Flip this thread |

This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 13 messages.) First | Previous | Next | Last Go to page

Saying "NO!"

(13 Posts)

By Fri 03-Jul-09 11:04:28 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Does anyone have any advice for trying to stop a toddler saying "no" all the time? DD has just turned two and seems to be saying it a hundred times a day, even when sometimes she doesn't mean it. Have tried replying with a just as stubborn "yes" and have also tried asking her not to say it as it isn't very nice. I find it really embarrassing when we're out and all the old dears look at her as if to say "what a horrible child.....!" Is it just a phase, or is she turning into little miss attitude?!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 20:07:30

Unfortunately, such tactics didn't work with my DD. She simply answered NO to everything, followed by a screaming tantrum if the answer resulted in her being deprived of something that she had actually wanted. hmm

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 12:44:37

love the tactics, butterball!
<writes it in notebook for when DS turns 2>

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 12:42:39

Agree with eveyone else, they all do it. My ds is 23 months and his first word was no and even now it's his favourite word. He says 'no' to everything and like butterball I love it! lol. I asked him if he wanted a biscuit earlier and he still kept saying no, I could ask him if he wanted a million pound and a trip to Disney Land and he'd still say no. Two year olds are just negative little people! Can't wait for the why stage too!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 23:26:33

WhoDidThat my gosh you just described my dd.
She is 5 and we have just come out of the POO phase and unfortunately taken a step back to something we left MONTHS ago muuuummmmyyyy!!!!!!!!!!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 22:25:35

Thanks all, feel nicely reassured x

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:48:40

I loved this stage! I used to wind up DS1 (yes, I am evil blush

) a lot as when he'd gotten into a major NO! groove I'd start saying things like, "Do you want a biscuit/chocolate/chips/to go to the park," and you could see him hesitate and want to say yes but be totally unwilling to break his no stride.

Can't wait for DS3 to get to that stage. grin

[evil]

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:45:52

Ignore it. Soon she will move on to saying "WHY" all the time, followed by "MU-UMMY to be replaced in turn by "POO" by which point you will wish that she just said "no".

Old dears love nothing more than to look down their noses at young children, so I wouldbn't worry about that either.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:40:45

Yes,it is an inevitable phase and she will grow out of it. I managed to temporarily stop my DD doing it by answering NO to everything she said to me. She didn't like that very much. grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 20:27:18

The 2yr olds favourite word is 'No' and the 3yr olds is 'Why?'. Perfectly normal developmental phase, so as soon as she grows out of this she will be questioning everything you say grin

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Fri 03-Jul-09 11:12:49

Good point. My eldest never went through that phase.....but having said that she was an unusually good toddler! I guess it's true that you never get two the same.....!

This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 13 messages.) First | Previous | Next | Last Go to page

Add your message here

Message

Nickname:
Password:

To post a message you need a valid mumsnet nickname and password. If you have forgotten your nickname, click here for a reminder. If you are not yet a member of mumsnet, you can join here.

Emphasis: To bold a word, surround it with asterisks, so *hello* will display hello. For underline use _ , so _hello_ gives hello. For italics use ^, so ^hello^ gives hello. To strike out a word, surround it with two hyphens either side, so --dog-- gives dog

Links and smileys: To insert a smiley face,

, type [smile] or :)
For a big grin,

, type [grin] or :o
For a wink,

, type [wink]
For a shocked face,

, type [shock]
For an angry face,

, type [angry]
For an embarrassed face,

, type [blush]
For a sad face,

, type [sad] or :(
For an envious face,

, type [envy]
For a sceptical face,

, type [hmm]
For a no comment face,

, type [biscuit]

Links The simplest way to insert a link is to enter the link itself, surrounded by [[ and ]]. So if you type [[www.mumsnet.com]], the link will display as http://www.mumsnet.com. If you want your link to display text other than the web address itself, leave a space after the address then add the text before the ]]. So "Look at [[www.mumsnet.com this page]]", would display "Look at this page".

Mumsnet Talk

Mumsnet latest

Useful tools

Recipe of the week

MN Local

Follow mumsnet on...

Mumsnet Talk

Saying "NO!"