Hello,
We had DS' first parent's evening last night and to start with everything was rosy ... he is in the top reading group and in numeracy the teachers words were "He is at the top of the class with his numeracy skills" ... of course I was bursting with pride as my DS is a bright boy.
Then there was a big 'BUT ... '
She said that DS has a problem with temper outbursts. This is nothing new to me as DS has always been a highly emotional child and has very intense feelings. When he is sad he is heartbroken, when he is happy he is deliriously so and when he is angry he is able to blow a gasket in pretty spectacular form. Up to now he seemed to keep his outbursts at home and direct them to me or DH ... but apparently he has had a few outbursts at school recently and this week he hit another little boy in his anger
I was devastated ... firstly that DS hit a child but also that he seems unable to control his feelings and naturally that the teacher has an issue with it. I was also a bit pissed off that she waited till parents evening to tell us. When I was teaching that sort of thing would be talked about with the parents straight away.
Anyway, I need pointers on how to help DS find a way to manage his feelings a bit more. He has such strong feelings and finds it hard to make sense of them.
At home DH and I are not particularly angry people, we have shouted at eachother before in front of DS but we try very hard to keep our issues till DS isn't around. We obviously don't hit eachother ever so DS can't have learned this from us ....
He knows that it is NEVER ok to hit and I also use time out when he loses it so that he knows he can't get what he wants unless he goes about it in a civilised manner.
The problem is is that he gets soooo frustrated when things don't go his way or in his opinion he has been treated wrongly (the incident at school was because someone spoiled something he was making ... again that makes me upset because some child ruined his thing and he got told off and punished for reacting badly but I imagine the other boy got away with it ... but I know that was no excuse for hitting him)
Anyway, sorry for the long post ...
Any pointers on how to help him?
Gxxx
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Anger management in a 5 year old
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ghosty · 14/04/2005 21:15
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