V.ashamed 2.5yo picked up swear word from me

[Jasmum]

I feel dreadful aout this but my 2.5yo has picked up the f word from me. I don't use it regularly but she's had chickenpox and mOnday Tuesday was feeling much better but was very trying, demanding and cheeky. I've never sworn at her but must admit to muttering it under my breath over the last couple of days genereally ffs. Well, she's now reciting it perfectly and DP is horrified. I don't need anyone to make me feel bad about it as I can do that by myself. DP has reprimanded her quite severely twice over it. I wonder if it's best to ignore it until it goes away. She does know it's naughty as she say;s it whilst looking at you grinning. Also it's when she gets a bit over excited......Unfortuantely MIL was here today and heard it very clearly.
So I am I the only one? Any ideas on how to deal with it?

[vict17]

I haven't had any direct experience of this but have you tried putting her on the naughty step when she says it?

[helsi]

I think a serious explanation that mummy was very naughty too when she said it might help.

[LGJ]

Well it is hardly ideal, but it is not the end of the world, agree with explanation or naughty step.

As for MIL, you should have said Oh goodness gracious me, where in the world, did she hear that?

[WideWebWitch]

Ignore it, say calmly 'we don't say that' and move on, definitely. If you give it value and get excited she will carry on saying it IME. I learnt this the hard way when my ds realised that telling me to Shut Up had an explosive effect. He thne used it whenever he wanted to see me in a frenzy. He knows he can say 'fuck' all he likes and it doesn't get a reaction (other than No Thanks) so there's no point. He doesn't say it though, he's 7 and knows not to swear. Well, he knows it's pointless!

[WideWebWitch]

Yes, tell her you didn't mean to. When ds was 3 he used to tell me off if I swore!

[WideWebWitch]

So I'd completely disagree with naughty step or making a big deal of it, really. She doesn't know what it means, she's just copying you, it's not her fault! And neither should you feel bad about it though!

[soapbox]

Oh I do sympathise - when DD was tiny (18months or so) I was stenciling in the bathroom and dropped a pot of stencil paint into the bath - and I exclaimed oh f* it!

DD picked straight up on it - however we managed to convince her that I had actually said oh bucket! She went around for months afterwards saying oh bucket all the time

Could you try that - oh for buckets sake is what mummy said and look blankly if she says it the other way????

[Jasmum]

Thanks, I agree with you www. I will ignore it & try to get Dp to do the same. Big lesson learnt here for me. I don't see the point in explaining that Mummy was naughtly as I don't want to draw any more attention to it.IF I say it again then I will try that approach...honestly they push and push and push and when you're nearly pushed to the limit they push you that little bit more. I'm feeling really nervous that she'll say it again in front of DP and relatives over easter, Dp's already lookign at me as if I'm the worst mother of the year!