Our dd is no saint, but she is an easy going generally well mannered kid. She has always gone to the same childminder who has a son who shows signs of Aspergers (no prejudice here...I work with kids with learning disabilities) but he has demanding behaviour. She said once that she would tell us about him one day, but never did and we have never asked. She also has a 5yr old daughter who currently seems to be showing much the same behaviour and is getting increasingly more violent towards our DD. I know kids are kids and our DD is 2 and probably going through all sorts of learning curves, but I'm a bit worried about the affect the CM's kids are having on our DD.
We have just been away on holiday for 3 weeks and at the beginning of the holiday DD was sharp, rude and lashed out with a hit if she didn't want to do something which is very clearly not the way we deal with things. Over the 3 weeks this behaviour diminished. This makes us think it is clearly learned behaviour.
Today was her first day back, and when I collected her the CM's DD was seemingly irritated with our DD for what appeared to be very petty things and on a number of occassions slapped her. After a number of hits our DD slapped her back for which I 'spoke to her firmly and explained that that was not kind behaviour' I made her appologise, which she did. I would like the CM to intervene a bit more and ask her DD not to hit our DD. On one occassion I shielded a slap and it hurt me, so would probably hurt a 2 yr old.
The CM seems very passive about this kind of thing. Her son slams glass doors and I hold my breath every time it happens. I don't want to seem as though I am being over protective or just taking the side of my own DD, but I feel that I want to address this behaviour as I think it could be threatening to one so small. I don't want to have to take her away, as we are happy in general with the CM, but I don't like this aggressive behaviour or the lack or addressing it. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions please?
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Our childminder's aggressive kids seem to be rubbing off on our daughter
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shinyshilling · 29/04/2008 19:14
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