Chucking stuff and hitting me

[MummyMacca]

Now, I may not be alone in this-it'd be nice to know that I'm not...

Have spent an eventful weekend doing the Supernanny 'get down to their level, look them in the eye', holding their hands by their sides thing after my 2 year old wallops me for not getting his own way.

This morning he put Moon Sand in the DVD tray (new recordable player) and chucked his favourite Happy Feet DVD across the room whilst standing on the coffee table. I then left to come to work whilst m-i-l ran around wildly with the Dyson and DH stood there in dressing gown (starts work later than me) with a face that suggested he was sucking a lemon.

I'm fairly sure, a couple of weeks ago, ds was an absolute angel...now EVERYTHING IS A BATTLE. Anyone sharing my pain at the moment??

[minko]

Yes, my DS 19mo is a nightmare. He's OK most of the time, but has a very short fuse and will throw things very forcefully if he's told off. He also hits us in the face if we get within range. And taking him out to eat is an ordeal, he throws everything he can get hold of - and he is getting quite good at throwing now too!

I think he's just frustrated at being not able to talk or walk(!) yet, so I'm hoping it's all a phase. Just please let it be over soon...

[Mamazon]

It is a phase - its called the terrible twos. its a rubbish term s it starts fr about 18motnhs and lasts till they are about 30.

[mammyofET]

My DS 18mo is exactly the same. Throwing and hitting things when he doesn't get his own way - often keeping my eye contact just to make sure I can see what he is doing! He even gave me a lovely little kick this weekend just for variety.

Everything is a battle, from which direction we are going in to which room we are going in, to putting socks on / off.

I have no pearls of wisdom but I am most definitely sharing your pain.

LOL Mamazon .

[stealthsquiggle]

LOL at Mamazon's definition of 'phase'

DD (18mths) is doing this too - largely hitting DS ATM. Whilst there is a rose-tinted hindsight element to it, DH and I are sure DS was not as bad at the same age, and even nursery have DD down as a stroppy madam (but they love her for it ).

Latest development is that when I say 'no' to something she makes absolutely sure I am watching and then does it again - and if one of us tells her off she runs wailing to the other (and if both parents are being nasty then she runs to DS(5), who is a soft touch - we have had to tell him not to cuddle her better if all that is wrong is that she has been told off )

[MummyMacca]

Absolutely with the 'check is Mummy/Daddy watching' thing. It's almost a sideways glance with optional mischievous grin. He's also into putting things in his mouth. Alas, DH is of the 'go nuts' variety, which DS totally loves. Giggles when DH rants-it fuels his fire. So anyway, DS put a full piece of drawing chalk in his mouth the other day and I completely blanked it. He was gutted and spat it out almost immediately!

Is so hard not to react, but incredibly effective.

[peekaboomum]

My little boy has just turned 2 this week and it is as if a button switched. He has to this point been a very amiable little boy willing to go with what I asked him to do and happy most of the time. Suddenly and it was really sudden, it has started to be really stressful to be around him.

He can turn in an instant and I am never sure what will trigger it and he will either try to hit me or throw stuff across the room or lie on the floor and cry his eyes out.

I have been finding it really upsetting and the problem is that no one really believes me as he tends only to do it when it is just me and him around....

Not sure what the answer is I'm afraid - you read in one book to ignore it, then to choose your battles, then to be consistent. They all seem to contradict each other which means they probably don't know either! Anyone read any book which has helped them?