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should we ditch the dummy TONIGHT and if so how?

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Nappyzone · 21/02/2008 15:47

My 15th month old isnt such a good sleeper - well he sleeps and goes down well with his dummy then everytime it falls out and he wakes up he screams for us to put back in or he screams and thats what we do anyway! I am fed up of getting up through the night half a dozen times fumbling about for one and wish we hadnt ever given him one, however my dd didnt have one and is still at 5 a prolific thumb sucker but hey we got unbroken sleep!!

Anyway dd is sleeping out tonight so rather than have a calm evening we thought with the worry of her being woken up out of the way and because ds is due in nursery tomorow and we are both off tomorrow we could catch up on sleep if needs be ..... so then night could be the night to remove it..... What do you reckon and baring in mind his age how should we do it, how long will it take and am i mad?

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Nappyzone · 21/02/2008 15:48

also i know my spelling and grammer is crap so forgive me that lol!

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Meeely2 · 21/02/2008 15:52

cold turkey is the only way to go, but be sure you want to. My twins had theirs til just after 2, we gave up after a holiday in Austria because ALL the photos i had of them from the trip had their dummies plugged in and i HATED it.

We threw them all away and that was that....if I remember rightly, took about a week of yelling at bedtime, and maybe up a few times in the night, but all was well after that. they are now three so we have been dummy free for a year. (was harder to give up bedtime bottles!)

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Meeely2 · 21/02/2008 15:54

i think the hard part was not having them to fall back on when they woke up fretful, so more about ME giving them up than the boys.

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Nappyzone · 21/02/2008 16:00

hmmmm, just sa a thread about dummies encouraged against sids - without jumping on that thread - does that only apply to really young babies as would not want to put ds at risk - maybe i will have to go read that report. Yes meeely i like the easy option also at 2am but not to need that option would be gooooooooooooooooood.

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Meeely2 · 21/02/2008 16:14

they do grow out of needing that option - if they can fall asleep at bedtime without dummy then they can fall asleep during the night without it too, if you get me.

The report on sids is mainly about newborns - on the same lines as "back to sleep", as babies get older the risk of sids is greatly reduced.

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iheartdusty · 21/02/2008 16:21

maybe a little reward?

we posted DD's dummies to the dummy fairy (who had the same address as my sister, funnily enough) and by way of thanks the fairy asked us to go and buy a scooter from the toyshop.

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suwoo · 21/02/2008 16:30

We gave DD's dummies to Father Christmas to give to the 'poor children' . We waited until she was definately ready, she was 3.9. She only had it in bed though, never in the day and it hasn't affected her teeth alignment or speech in any way. I will also wait until much later than 15 months with DS, he won't sleep anyway, but save yourselves the hassle- WAIT

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hannahjb · 21/02/2008 16:34

we did something similar to iheartdusty, we put all the dummies that we could find in a special bag for the dummy fairy to collect that night so she could take them to babies for them to have, and then 'voila' in the morning, the kind dummy fairy had left a small pressie in the bag, he never asked for them again - BUT, he was nearly 3 so of an age where he understood, not sure how he would have coped at 15 months! good luck!

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Nappyzone · 21/02/2008 16:46

Hmmm i am having second thoughts now - sometimes it is a saviour through the day - if he could have it through the day when needed (i need sanity and he is whiney) but not at night seems wrong

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Meeely2 · 21/02/2008 16:49

we did it the other way round - not in the day and only at night - but because they were in the house i found i relied on them more and more in the day til they were having them full time again. I just have this thing against toddlers with dummies, mine were talking round theirs and their speech wasn't developing great....then we got holiday snaps back and I thought enoughs enough, gone.....(I did it on a night when dh was out, so that he wouldn't buckle and give in!)

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EHM · 21/02/2008 16:50

my dd is 21 months after xmas we put the dummies away during the day. doesn't go to sleep with one most nights, but we leave a couple in the cot & she finds them herself. I am too much of a wimp to remove & go cold turkey. hoping she will grow out of the 'need' for them. Good luck with what you decide to do.

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mellowma · 21/02/2008 16:51

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stuffitllama · 21/02/2008 17:02

Be sure you want to do it, otherwise don't. If he wants it that much and you are wobbly about it you will give in! We did it like hannah when he was old enough to understand a present swap thing. Dummies are so useful and rather a dummy than a thumb sucker cos you can't take their thumbs away!

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Nappyzone · 21/02/2008 20:14

ok i have kinked and fell at the first hurdle - i watched Emmerdale tonight and ds woke crying - well actually i dont think he ever went to sleep but he is now with his big fat dummy in . Am now thinking remove through day and try to get to sleep starting tomorrow night when i am over EMMERDALE without the dummy then stick a zillion in his bed to find himself lol!! I am so weak!