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dd 8 months been told today shes 2 months behind, is this a big gap?

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:15

she as lots of problems and i knew she was behind but i feel like ive been kicked by a horse over this! i didnt think it was much but told it is as shes only 8 months is this right?

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kindersurprise · 11/02/2008 19:17

What exactly is she not doing that your HV (I presume?) thinks she should be doing?

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dilbertina · 11/02/2008 19:18

who told you this? There is huge variations with developement in first few years. What aspects worry you?

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LIZS · 11/02/2008 19:19

unless she's very udnerdeveloped then I uspect she could yet be within "normal" range. Was she premature ? What did HV propse, is she being referred ?

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:19

not not hv her physio, in her moverment, we know shes not but i think she may catch up

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avenanap · 11/02/2008 19:20

They only use these as an average. some babies will be ahead, some behind. I wouldn't worry, it's too early for them to assuma anything.

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:21

she as promlems sezures as i sdaid lots, she was not prem, and she also been classed as failer to thrive last week,

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yurt1 · 11/02/2008 19:21

trace I think you're still in the watching/waiting time which is really really hard. It's hard to tell what it means, she may suddenly shoot forwards. Perhaps ask on SN or ttr as well- there may be someone with experience.

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:23

yurt1 i am a regular on sn borad but i thought i would put under development bit!

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bubblagirl · 11/02/2008 19:24

my cousins little boy has epilepsy he is 2.5 and wasnt able to do things as quick as other babies poor muscle tone etc

now at 2.5 like any other toddler running around you would nevr have known he was just slower at reaching milestones

yet you have chldren who do things in there own time when they are ready and appear to be behind but they are ok

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yurt1 · 11/02/2008 19:26

yeah I know trace, I just wonder whether you'll get more specific help there. It is a such a worrying time when you're watching and waiting to see what happens.

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:28

yurt1 sorry i relised when i re read your post lol and noticed ttr

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kindersurprise · 11/02/2008 19:33

If she is being closely monitored then obviously there is some worry about her development.

Don't make yourself sick with worry about what the "norm" is. Easier said than done, but I think you have to concentrate on the progress she makes, rather than on the comparison to other children her age.

You never know with children, as Bubblagirl says, sometimes they just need a bit more time.

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:38

yes shes being closely monitored and i know i just think after every thing my dd as gone through its like oh i dont know,
but thank you ladys i think i just needed to let of steam

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yurt1 · 11/02/2008 19:40

When I was paranoid about ds3 - I set myself targets- so 'if he's not doing x by date such and such' then I'll worry then in the meantime I kid of did my best to forget about it.

Do you go to mother and baby groups? If they make you feel bad don't feel like you 'should' go. When we became aware of ds1's developmental delays I'd go, then come home and sob until I decided that was ridiculous and stopped going.

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trace2 · 11/02/2008 19:46

no i dont , we always at hospital or some where eles to see or shers having sezures or postures but i have been meeting a few mums on here, and yes it did sting, when i knew she could not do same shes very weak to

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dilbertina · 11/02/2008 21:06

How fantastic trace2 that despite her difficulties she has developed to be only 2 months behind! She sounds like a little fighter, and with such a caring mum who's helping her get the help she needs to get over future obstacles I'm sure you'll both be fine! As someone else said earlier maybe it would help to focus on what she can do and celebrate her achievements. Enjoy her!

(And I really don't mean that all to sound trite - sorry if it does!)

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trace2 · 12/02/2008 09:47

dilbertina thank you, my dh always says yes but look what she can do, and shes a very happy smiley baby, who makes everyones day when she smiles at them

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Miggsie · 12/02/2008 11:12

My DD missed every physical milestone by miles...rolling, crawling, walking, teeth...really behind. Did not roll until 9 months, no teeth until 15 months, was almost referred to paediatrician 3 times...

She is now 4, completely ok, very bright and happy sings away to herself, boundless energy...don't worry!

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