DD is waking EVERYBODY up... any advice?

[phlossie]

DD is 4mo, goes down easily at 7pm, wakes up twice in the night, goes down easily after first wake up (all good so far), but on her second wake up she's very tricky to settle - and this inevitably involves a bit of crying.
The problem is, this second wake up is usually around 5am, which is when ds (2yrs) seems to be in a lighter phase of sleep, and she always wakes him up. As a result, no-one gets much sleep after her second wake up (except her!). DS is starting to get dark rings to match his parents'!
They don't share a room and both doors stay closed. At the moment, I'm grabbing as soon as I hear a peep out of her, bringing into our bed (booting dh out) and feeding her lying down until she falls asleep. But I find it very hard to sleep next to her, it quite often wakes ds up, and it means she has to wake up when dh gets up for work... Any ideas?

[yetihed]

Is she windy by the early morning feed? Would extra winding at first feed or even gripe water help??? Not that I'm an expert!

[specialmagiclady]

What is it you find hard about co-sleeping?

It's just this is exactly what I've been doing for at least the last 8 months and it quite suits me. DS2 would be up at 5 properly given the choice, but I like to keep him quiet by keeping a boob in his mouth until we're all ready to face the world.

Could you arrange pillows better so you can sleep?