BACK FROM CLINIC and ..............

[Slink]

really wanted someone to talk to as dd 1yr cries all day night is very clingy won't go to dad of if so only for a while, demanding bf not great with solids. So i tell this all to hv and she says that she going to send someone over nursery nurse to observe my day and teach me other methods. (still reading thank you) Well how even more unfit do i feel now, my elder dd 6 was a dream had colic for 1st three mohths bottle fed slept good waled talked etc baby dd still crawling. Stupid thing is i used to work in social services and help young mums with thier babys and here i am feeling useless. Dh came to appt he says just see what they say he said they will say all the things i have tried.
I know i have doen it all wrong with this dd bf her co sleeping .......

[TheIceQueen]

Slink - you haven't done ANYTHING wrong - especially not wiht the bf/co-sleeping.

Babies are all SO different - I had a nightmare with DS1 (bf/co-slept), DS2 (FF - in cot from start) was a dream - and DS3 (FF also in cot) is different again.

Just because you used to help mums with their babies doesn't mean you're any less of a mother/person because you need help with yours.

[Slink]

thank you but i just hate that i am having almost like a supernanny coming to my house??? dd is teething she refuses meds i like co sleeping especially as she is teething and been ill it is easier for me plus i think dh is prefering the bottom bunk!!

[purplemonkeydishwasher]

you aren't dong anything wrong.
my DS was the same. not a good sleeper. (we co-slept) a wrose eater (was BF on demand and demanded a LOT)
but he's 2 now and he eats anything and evreything. still doesn't sleep through regularly but only gets up once and is in his own bed.
you are going through a rough time. but truly it will pass.
{{hugs}}

[TheIceQueen]

Did you view yourself as a "supernanny" when you helped those young mums? I doubt it.

I'm sure it must be hard, but just because your DD2 is more challenging doesn't reflect in ANY way on your parenting abilities. In fact, in my mind, as you've gone and asked for help that makes you a BETTER parent.

[Slink]

Thank you soooo much i do feel better. Your right i did not see myself as i supernanny but thought stupidly that i had a ll the answers. I can't litsen and just let dd cry i will feed her and carry her and do what i need to she will grow out of this, it helps knowing that there are those who have experienced it rather than just read it from a book (which before kids was me )
thank you again, i don't feel like crying anymore xx