Dd used to be so well behaved and my mum has always told me she's been good as gold (she looks after her in the day when I'm at work) but in the last couple of months her behaviour has really gone down hill and it's now reached breaking point. She is rude to people, won't do as she's told, has tantrums over stupid things like having to put her coat on and she cries when we leave her in bed now. Mum told me last night that dd had been a pain in the a*se which really upset me. I had to drag her out of mum's house screaming and, for 15 minutes in the car she screamed 'go away mummy, I don't want you'. I ended up bursting into tears.
I believe it's partly to do with us treating her like a much older child. She's 2.9 years but is quite mature for her age. Dh and I were discussing last night and I think we give her too much choice, for example, 'do you want to clean your teeth or do you want me to do it' or 'do you want to wear your cardigan or your coat'. These seem quite reasonable things to ask her but we do it for everything. Could this be causing problems?
Another issue I assume is causing behavioural problems is she now has a baby brother. He is 21 weeks old. For the first 2 months or so it didn't affect her other than getting a bit jealous when he was feeding for ages. She loves her brother and always wants to hug him when she's upset. I was wondering if this is some kind of delayed reaction to having to share our attention.
We've decided to stop asking her to make so many decisions. She's also now going to bed an hour earlier at 7:30. She was going to bed at 8:30 and not going to sleep til 10 most nights and was always difficult to wake in the morning. Anyone got any other ideas of what we can do to try to rectify this awful situation?
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Can too much choice cause bad behaviour?
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GillL · 09/01/2008 13:17
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