boys and wee-ing

[MaryAnnSingleton]

I know the accuracy of boys weeing into a loo has been discussed very recently, but I'm wondering about 10 yr old boys and how they deal with not getting wee on their pants after weeing - dabbing with loo paper or not - I suspect that ds also hangs on for as long as possible before going to the loo,because he's busy or sometimes at school doesn't want to interrupt a lesson to be excused, and sometimes a dribble of wee leaks out...I don't want he smelling like an old incontinent man ! are we alone in this,is what I'm asking ? I'm sick of harping on at him about it.

[MaryAnnSingleton]

[TheDuchessOfNorksBride]

Sorry - DS is only 4yo so not best comparison. He 'shakes' and doesn't get drips on pants. But I suppose they'd only be little drips if he did.

Bonus information ! His aim is excellent when he concentrates and lousy if he's thinking about trains, cars, power rangers, marshmallows etc.

Anyway, bumping ...

[SofiaAmes]

My dh is in charge of teaching ds how to wee, which is a bit of the blind leading the blind, but I believe he has taught him to shake to get rid of the drips.

[clumsymum]

MaryAnn, If you want him to be 'cleaner' about this sort of stuff, talk to him, while he is still fairly young and you can.

You are his mother, there shouldn't be embarassment about you discussing such matters with a child. If you don't do it now though, as he gets older it will become more difficult, and more important too.

And Sofia, I'm amazed by your comment. Dh and I are both ds's parents and so we both get involved in teaching ds everything, so if you have a comment to make, do it. That said, I did get dh to teach ds how to wash his "bits", but only because I'd never actually washed any!!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

clumsymum - oh I do discuss it with him - and told him how important it is to keep clean and fresh - I think he;s always in such a rush to get on and be doing something else - I'm just getting a bit fed up with having to remind him. I tell him to go for a pee before he really needs to as well,so that there's no chance of leakage. As for washing his bits -I've taught him when young and dh has shown him more recently as it seemed more appropriate as he's a bit older now.

[clumsymum]

Right.

I must admit that I have the same prob with ds (8) who will NOT wipe his bum properly (or I think, at all).

I think you do just have to keep on and on until they grow thru it. I suppose it'll improve once he gets interested in girls?

[MaryAnnSingleton]

• he is a clean boy actually,baths every day,spends ages cleaning his teeth, washes his hands after the loo and is good at bottom wiping - it's just the careless weeing - I guess it is just a question of reminding him !

[MaryAnnSingleton]

bump this again

[FluffyMummy123]

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[themoon66]

Right... all of you with little boys... learn from my lesson. I left 'things' to DH and now have a 6ft tall, 16 year old DS who cannot hit the loo, and when he does we get splash back due to his 6ft height. And I get horrible skid mark underwear to wash. At 16 they will die if a parent speaks to them about such subjects

Sort it whilst they are little. Mark my words

[MaryAnnSingleton]

icod - you described it perfectly !! Good advice too themoon !

[FluffyMummy123]

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[MaryAnnSingleton]

thanks icod - am going to sort this when ds gets back from school !

[themoon66]

yes cod.. piss city would be an accurate description of my downstairs loo

[SofiaAmes]

clumsymum, not sure what I said that offended you, but I'm sorry...wasn't meant to be offensive.

Being without a penis, I have no firsthand experience at peeing with one....seemed fairly straightforward to put dh in charge of doing boy pee lessons. As it happens, I'm in charge of making sure that ds remembers to clean his willy, but it was ds who showed him how to do it. Anyway, I was really just trying to say that missing that great big round hole isn't something that just little boys do. In my experience, lots of very big boys do it too.

Cod, unfortunately, my ds doesn't seem to find wiping up his pee distasteful, so the punishment of having to do it when he pees everywhere doesn't seem to improved his aim.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[MaryAnnSingleton]

hey icod - I have instructed ds to put his willy out of the way of his pants/trousers and shake then dab with loo paper...now we'll see if it becomes a habit...

[OracleInaCoracle]

when do you start getting themto stand up to wee? ds has been potty-trained for about 4m now!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

can't remember when ds started this - he's 10 now - I think by about 4 he was doing it...

[cornsilk]

Do anyone elses ds's want to wee at the same time as their brother? Mine try to if they want to go to the loo at the same time. They think of it as a kind of sword fight with wee. Nightmare, wee everywhere.

[SofiaAmes]

Dh taught ds straight away when he was potty trained at 2. I didn't realize that this was unusual until not long after when we were in Italy and ds went running down to the sea, pulled down his swimming costume and took a long pee into the sea. All the Italian fathers were watching with shocked looks and started making a beeline for us. I thought ds had committed the ultimate offense, until I realized that they were shaking dh's hand and congratulating him on having taught his son to pee standing up. Very funny broken english conversation ensued with dh giving peeing lesson tips to all the Italian dads.

Cornsilk...I get this with dh and ds. Ugh.

[TheHerdNerd]

This is a tip I only got when I was about 24, and then it was a bit of a revelation. No more incomprehensible wet patches on undies!

A bloke's urethra comes out the bottom of his bladder, then does a bit of a dip underneath the pubic bone before coming up to his willy - it's a bit like a u-bend. When you wee, a bit of urine tends to pool in that dip and no amount of dabbing with loo paper is going to help you. The moment you zip up and leave the loo, walking will push that u-bend tight and whoosh - wet spot. Dammit.

What you do is after you've had a wee, before you tidy away the equipment, you put two fingers down inside your fly to just behind the scrotum and press upwards. This can be done very inconspicuously with practice. You'll get a bit more wee out that you didn't know was there, and you'll never again have a wet spot.

[TheDuchessOfNorksBride]

lissie - DS1 did standing wee's after about one month of using the loo. We found that when he sat on the loo he mostly pee'd straight 'up and over' resulting in mopping up and smelly loo's. He's really short though so still needs a step!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

that's really interesting HerdNerd - thanks - don't think I can complicate things with ds but dh might find that a useful tip !