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18Month Old turned into SpiderMan Any suggestions?

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EHM · 20/11/2007 12:30

DD has decided that she likes to climb on the furniture, or anything really. It would appear she is fearless. When we say no, or remove her from the area she has climbed on top off. She giggles as if its a game. When she shows she is frustrated if we continue to say no & remove her. On Sunday started to grab or bite me/dh
She has climbed on the couch for a while now & each time we have said 'sit down please' & when she does we praise & say 'good girl'. This is no longer working.
Where have we gone wrong & when will she listen & understand that no means no
We are so concerned that she will fall off then end of the couch, or somewhere else and really hurt herself.
I would appreciate any comments, thanks.

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ATortIsForLifeNotJustChristmas · 20/11/2007 12:45

I think you have been doing all the right things.
Not sure what to add really. She is just pushing the boundries. A firm No when she does it and if she bites firmly say No again and sit her on the floor.
Other than that, if she does fall off she will learn the hard way!

TheMadHouse · 20/11/2007 12:46

erm..... My boys also climb, infact DS2 could climb before he could walk. I too firmly say no and remove them. DS1 is 2.7 now and only really climbs if being nauhty, but DS2, well I popped to the loo last week only to find him sat in the middle of the dinning table.

I also posted a while back rebiting and it has stopped so I assume it was a developmental thing, again a firm no and removeing was what we did.

Not much advice really

Iota21againAndMum22boys · 20/11/2007 12:47

one of my dses was a climber, some kids are. And yes, they do fall of things and hurt themselves. DS2 managed to get 2 x black eyes in a week - one at home and one at nursery. I was embarrassed to take him out in case people thought I was beating him

dosydot · 20/11/2007 13:06

DS age 20 months is a climber dining table toys have now started to put knife block on top of the f/freezer as i found him on the work surface last week having dragged in a dining room chair whist i was on the loo.
He also jumps off the sofa except he can't jump yet so just dives.
He has so many bumps and bruises I can't count. Dh and I are convinced it won't be long before he is out of his cot either! God help us then.
I think if that is what they do there is little you can do to stop them except tie them down ( oh what a thought) [joking]

dosydot · 20/11/2007 13:06

DS age 20 months is a climber dining table toys have now started to put knife block on top of the f/freezer as i found him on the work surface last week having dragged in a dining room chair whist i was on the loo.
He also jumps off the sofa except he can't jump yet so just dives.
He has so many bumps and bruises I can't count. Dh and I are convinced it won't be long before he is out of his cot either! God help us then.
I think if that is what they do there is little you can do to stop them except tie them down ( oh what a thought) [joking]

lairyfairy · 20/11/2007 13:14

Just have to make the world as safe as poss, there is no stopping them unless you want to fightr constantly. I found my dd2 20mths sat on top of the cooker last week , we also have to keep all the windows locked as we live in a flat and she is often on the windowsill.

EHM · 20/11/2007 13:14

Thanks Everybody it nice to know she isn't the only spidertoddler
DDot dd has also started to drag the chairs from the table. We have a gate on the kitchen or she would be into the knives too

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VictorianSqualor · 20/11/2007 13:16

There isn't really much you can do, just get them down, try to distract them and tell them you don't want them climbing on there.
How old is your DD??
Would she understand a book?
DS is nearly 3 and still climbs, mainly on the kitchen sides. He is removed and told he isn't supposed to climb on there. Failing that there isn't much you can do except make the places she is likely to climb either inaccessable or safer.
The biting I would take a stronger stand point on, but not target the biting specifically, more the fact she is hurting you or DH. Before you get into any for of punishment or discipline, try showing her how much you are hurt, it's rare a child likes to see their parents cry or won't change their behaviour once they realise they have hurt you. Exagerrate it if need be, just try to get the point across that she is hurting you rather than it being 'naughty'.

VictorianSqualor · 20/11/2007 13:17

Oh, btw DD is 7 on saturday, she has finally learnt no means no, so it does happen

lairyfairy · 20/11/2007 13:20

They can be so clever with how to get to places, when dd was about 16mths found her eating a cake that was at the back of the worktop, no idea to this day how she got it.

EHM · 20/11/2007 13:21

VS thanks for the points about biting. I thought if I pretented to cry it may help. I give it a try. dd is 18 months & had us both so frustrated on Sunday we couldn't wait until bed time

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bigspender30 · 20/11/2007 13:23

i have a climber too-aged 18 months but has been like this for months. The latest one is to climb on the sofa then walk along the window ledge. Its horrendous. I have to keep the conservator door locked so he doesn't climb on the dining table. I try and read to him and play more "sitting down" games but he's not interested. He's going to be a stuntman when he grows up. He is constantly covered in bruises and is totally fearless.

EHM · 20/11/2007 13:25

bigS30 i try to sit on the floor too rather than the couch when we read together. I also try to get dd to draw on the floor. Not on the floor , but this always happens too.

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VictorianSqualor · 20/11/2007 13:35

Can I also say the reason these children are climbing is exploration, walk around on your knees for a few hours and see how different the worls looks to them, then stand up, it's AMAZING! There is so much to see!
They are also feeling safe and secure, because you as parenst have made them feel this way.
It's a good thing really, even though it can be bloody annoying and scary.
EHM, I guarantee every parent on here has days they wish it was bedtime a lot earlier.

lairyfairy · 20/11/2007 13:36

What a lovely post vic, and also is it not bedtime yet!!!!

EHM · 20/11/2007 13:42

victorianS what a lovely post. Thank you

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bigspender30 · 20/11/2007 16:53

How true VicS! My friend also says that curious children are more intelligent.....

VictorianSqualor · 20/11/2007 18:17

Yep, also apparently the children that have tantrums are the ones that feel safe and secure with expressing themselves, the children that don't feel like that are the ones that will hide in the corner like a mouse, so all these things that try us mean we are doing well

lairyfairy · 20/11/2007 18:21

goodness my 4yo dd must feel very secure then, I must be a really good mum

EHM · 20/11/2007 18:23

you ladies are making me feel much better. I am going to get dh to read this tonight.

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