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IMMEDIATE ADVICE NEEDED!!!

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mum2oliver · 12/10/2007 17:58

Have I done the right thing?
My ds is 3.6.He continues to be disruptive and naughty t the dinner table.I gave him a warning and put him by the door(naughty step)and explained that if he carried on i would send him to bed with no stories.
Iv now done this and feel really guilty.HAve I gine too far.
He has been so naughty at the dinner table for so long.x

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wideload · 12/10/2007 18:01

I would of done just what you did, it's like breaking a sleeping pattern, tough love hurts us more than them.

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Sam100 · 12/10/2007 18:04

You have done the right thing - in that you must always follow through with whatever punishment you have said will be the consequence. If you don't follow through then how can he learn?

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mum2oliver · 12/10/2007 18:05

He's going mad though.He's really crying.I know I wont give in.I never do but just wondering if right.

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PeachesMcLean · 12/10/2007 18:08

You warned him. You've told him what the consequences would be. He's persisted and you've carried it out. Bound to be a shock to his system, but he has to learn. I think you're right.

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mum2oliver · 12/10/2007 18:10

he's had a dream!he needs a wee!he's hurt himself!what next.

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mummyloveslucy · 12/10/2007 18:14

You have deffinatly done the right thing. It will be hard at first (harder on you than him!) but you have to nip this in the bud and soon you will be able to relax and eat together as a family which is so important. It dosn't seem like it right now but believe me, he'll thank you for it. Good luck and be strong.

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alison222 · 12/10/2007 18:17

I think that as everyone else said you were right. You have to follow through on your threats otherwise they just learn that you don't mean it and feel free to ignore you any time they like. Problem is though you have to be careful what you threaten if you are going to have to follwo it through

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Kiddi · 12/10/2007 18:22

Dont feel bad, sounds like you have done something you knew you would have too do. You say you never give in, well good on you, you know your child best, and has it ever been the wrong decision before. As loong as you have a good chat tomorrow explaining nicley why it happened and again offer warnings tomo night then stick with it. He will love you all the more for it( maybe not today) but long term for offering clear consistent boundaries.

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mum2oliver · 12/10/2007 18:48

Yeehah he has worn homself out and dropped off to sleep.Thanku guys.Really needed that.It got me thru it.Now I can relax for the evening(well lets hope so)x