DD is 11 mo. When she was born, she was very unsettled and everyone said she was very colicky and would outgrow it. She did, but has continued to be whingey and cries a good deal throughout the day unless everything is exactly to her taste. I had hoped that as she got older, and learned to crawl, she would feel happier and less frustrated, but that doesn't seem to be the case.
I have started to feel quite down about how much she whinges and to really doubt my parenting skills. I talked to my HV about it. She spent some time with me talking about DD and observing her. She said that DD is one of the more difficult babies she has ever seen (tell me something I don't know!) She told me that DD was bright with very good comprehension, and was possibly frustrated because she cannot make me understand what she wants. She also advised me to start ignoring the whinging unless something is actually wrong, and that it wouldn't hurt DD to wait a few minutes for my attention sometimes.
I do this, but am still feeling low about how high maintenance she seems to be. I realise that without seeing us together, it is hard to guess what is wrong, but I am desperate for some advice or tips.
I love my DD so much, it's just hard to like her sometimes. I don't want to be negative about her all the time; she can be very loving and does seem so bright in so many ways. I just wish we could co-exist a bit more peacefully and that she seemed more content.
Any tips or advice?
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Can you please help me - I am finding my 11mo difficult
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Jessicatmagnificat · 09/10/2007 08:25
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