my son 2.3 and not really talking ways of helping him please

[bubblagirl]

my son is 2.3 and really doeasn't say much he does try so i praise him for this but he is such an independant boy he would rather just do it himself than ask

i do repeat and say more juice if he wants it or juice mummy but he will either just say yeah or nothinh he wont be told i done picture books but wont sit with them now

he has thomas laptop and it teaches sounds of words and i can hear him copying when he is away from me so i know he is trying just wanted any advice from anyone else who been through this or going through it all my friends children do talk so they dont understand

[HenriettaHippo]

don't pressurise him (or yourself!). Just talk to him yourself as much as possible, about everything and anything. He'll learn by example. And ask him quesions e.g. - "that's a pretty blue butterfly isn't it X, do you think it will fly off that way next?". I don't think there's any substitute for having conversations with your child, even if he doesn't respond as yet. He will do, and then if he's anything like my DS (3.4), you'll wish he'd stop talking sometimes...

[bubblagirl]

thanks i do ask questions like that and am always talking to him have notice dhe is trying to say alot more just not quite there but at least if he is trying its only a matter of time before he cracks it would love to chat with him he is so caring and affectionate his my little buddy thank you x

[bubblagirl]

lol bet its great though being able to chat at least you can find out th answers to whats wrong as all is still a guessing game with us

[Clary]

nursery rhymes and any other repetition games (round and round the garden, this little piggy etc) are also really good for speech.

[HenriettaHippo]

exactly. also remember your DS is an individual, and it doesn't matter if he starts to speak at a different time to your friend's babies. I have friends whose babies didn't start to talk until well over 2, and others whose babies said recognisable words at 1.5. Likewise, some walk at 11 months, others at 18 months. They're all on the "normal" spectrum. So long as your DS is communicating in other ways, e.g. eye contact, affectionate, smiley etc. then don't worry.

[bubblagirl]

he does actually try to say alot more when singing so we make up songs and he does try bless him thank you just want to makr sure i'm doing all i can before SALT its all baby talk still i worry thats because of me although i dont baby him but he is my first child and only so maybe i should of done something that i din't hv said he can do things that a 3 yr old is struggling to learn physically so she thinks he just feels no need to talk

[bubblagirl]

thank you its just when were out he looks alot older than he is when he starts babbling they give him funny looks then say em... how old is he so i say just over 2 they just so oh right i'm not embarrassed by him just the fact that people expect kids to be older than they really are much quicker i like the fact he isn't completely grown up but do want him to progree dont want him to always be loooked down on as he is much brighter with other thing can do puzzles meant for 3 yr old been taking himself to potty from 2nd day of training ect

[HenriettaHippo]

so he's been concentrating on puzzles and learning to control his bladder rather than talking, that's all! Well done him!

[bubblagirl]

lol yeah he is doing so wel with other things did stay in his bed from 20 mths although gets in our bed now but from 2nd day of potty training he has taken himself probably so he dont have to ask obviously nappies still needed for going out as doesn't ask but dry when at home so he can do anything you ask he'll take his rubbish straight to the bin put his washing up straight in the bowl after clearing his plate in bin first his so independant oh and he'll do the hoovering well trained just need to get him talking all else is cracked lol

acts so much older than his 2 yrs no wonder he has to lack in something i suppose

[bubblagirl]

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[bubblagirl]

if anyone else is going throught his then any advice would be great

[bubblagirl]

through this

[USAUKMum]

Sounds as if your DS is just concentrating on other things than talking. Both my DC were late talkers. Was a bit worried with DD, but decided she'd do it in her own time. She went to a day nursery as I worked and at one point the carers said they were a bit worried as she only said single words as wasn't progressing from that. Then all at once she started with complex sentences, so basically skipped all the steps in between (2 word sentences, 3 word etc). DS turned out the same. BUT they were both advanced on physical skills (walking, climbing etc).

Keep talking to him, read stories, sing songs. When asking him things say "do you want juice or water" to try and get him to say more than just yes.

He will probably just one day say "I want more juice mummy". So just try and relax and enjoy the things he can do.

[tikibinx]

Without meaning to worry you at all (!) my ds was a late talker and at 3 he barely ever talked to anyone other than me and it was really hard to understand anything he said.
He has sleep apnea and was referred to a specialist just after his 3rd birthday. They did a hearing test then and he has really bad glue ear! we were completely in the dark about this - he passed all routine hearing tests with flying colours, had never complained or shown symptoms of earache or anything! Needless to say i was mortified that we had no clue..... anyway, he is having the op for his sleep apnea in 4 weeks and they are planning to put in grommits at the same time which should help.

Other than that, all children develop at different rates in different things!

[bubblagirl]

oh bless him hope all goes well there

he does choose when he wants to say things and yes does seem to concentrate on wanting to do other things physically he is advanced

i'm awaiting hering test all appears well he can follow out all commands given so doesn't appear to have a problem but we will see when we go


hoping it is because he is so independant every day i hear him trying to say something new but sytill no asking for things or anywhere near forming setences so lets hope in few months he would be at same level hv seems sure of this it just doesn't feel he'll ever talk thanks for advice

[bubblagirl]

usaukmum i do try to get him to do the whole do you want water or juice i have heard him try and say duice so close enough for me and other times just yeah so i do say i want juice mummy or juice mummy just to let him know what to say

as i said just feels like he'll never get there and once again physically very advanced i know they have to lack in something just want to be able to understand him more as it frustrating for both of us

i think he'll wake up talking one day then i wont know what hit me lol thanks again

[Poshpaws]

Bubblagirl, I am in exactly the same position as you at the moment.

Ds2 is nearly 2 yrs, 3 months and has only come on with single words (now has lots) within the last 7 weeks. He has had his first session with SALT and she thinks it is just a delay and we have work to do with him at home. Basically, she says we need to just repeat, repeat, repeat, making his single words into 2 word sentances. He now has said about 3 two-word sentances .

He understands instructions, points to what he wants, sometimes asks ('more').

He will be starting nursery in September, so hoping he will come on leaps and bounds, but I really understand where you are coming from.

SALT also said that for DS2 (or any child, I suppose) it is like the way we learn a foreign language, so the more we repeat, the more we recongnise and begin to understand what is being said and can then respond.

[Poshpaws]

Oh, forgot to say, DS2 is physically advanced as well. Maybe they are both too busy running around to have conversations with their parents

[USAUKMum]

with my two it was somewhere between 2.3 & 2.8 months that they made this massive jump in talking. But DS climbed a 6 ft slide at 7 mths, and both DC walked at 10.5 mths.

[Bricks]

I would like to suggest that you ask your HV to perform a CHAT review which looks holistically at all of his behaviours particularly as his speech is not as developed as it should be for this milestone.

I am not saying this to worry you I just think it is difficult for people to advise, when you know your son best.

This assessment will look at him as a whole not just his speech and provide a guideline as to whether he has languague delay, speech delay or any hearing issues.

[mm22bys]

Hi,

Your son is still very young, so he may not actually have a problem, but will get there with no intervention in his own good time.

When my DS1 was 2.11 he also wasn't talking much so we took him to SALT.

She suggested we sit down and play with him, and take turns in talking ie say one word, and WAIT till he answered one word back. We would have to count to 10 before saying our next input. By the end of the first session he came on leaps and bounds.

She also suggested putting things out of reach so he would actually have to ask for them (juice, spoon / fork, toys, etc). Don't make life too easy for him!

Also only talk to him about exactly what he is doing - if he is playing with a train, don't talk for instance about what he's having for dinner (or whatever) - he can probably only concentrate on one thing at a time at his age!

Oh, and DS1 is now 3.3 and talks absolutely all the time, the change in only 4 months is amazing...

All the best,