DS#1 blames me for everything that goes wrong. Everything. It started about 3 months ago and at first I just laughed at it but now it?s really beginning to hurt. He loses something = mummy putting it somewhere. He hurts himself = mummy put something in the way so he tripped over it. He gets into trouble = mummy?s fault for not telling him he shouldn?t do it. And he gets quite angry too. And DH can do no wrong. Even though he shouts at them and is very impatient at times (when they don?t jump to it when he wants to go out, or when they interrupt his reading the paper for example ). But what they remember is the brief period when he?s play-fighting with them, making them laugh, buying them toys). DH reckons it?s because I?m the one whose with them more often, getting them up, taking them to school, feeding them, getting them to bed more often than not. So they don?t need to try with me ? I?m always there. I admit I get ranty sometimes but I put that down to being the Martha to his Mary when it comes to the kids and always being in a rush. DS#2 told DH that he?s ?his best? and DD thinks DH is more fun. But they don?t blame me for everything like DS#1 does.
I remember looking forward to my dad coming home. He was always happy to see us and had/made time to play with us. I clearly remember preferring him . I hate the idea that that is how my children think of me. Is it a normal part of a boy?s development to resent his mother at certain times. I know he loves me ? when I?ve told him that he?s hurt me he always gives me a big hug and says sorry. But why does he do it?
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Everything is mummy's fault at the moment
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OrmIrian · 30/07/2007 11:26
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