DC is 2.8. From an early age we have always tried to discipline her when she does something undesirable in our house, ie tantrums = being ignored (but hugs after), biting/kicking etc will be one warning, and then if she does is again (or does not apologize to the person etc) its time out for 2 minutes and she must then apologize to the person she has hurt. of course she also gets treats for being good, whether she has played on her own whilst i am cooking food or if we have been out and she has been good, so its not all punishment lol. This has worked for us and generally she is VERY well behaved. Of course we try not to push limits and always make sure she is well rested/fed/watered (lol, I make her sound like a plant)
I as amazed though when I saw a friend (hadn't seen her for ages) with her 2.2 year old, her lo wanted me to play with her and when I didnt do it immediatley her DD then kicked me (it really hurt) on my shin!! Then, when I still didnt play with her she rolled on the floor and had a tantrum and she got cuddles! I was totally shocked when her mum laughed it off saying thats toddlers for you! My dd copied about 10 mins later(kicking that is), which resulted in her going into time out, to my friends utter amazement saying how could i be so cruel????
Was I too harsh on DD?? I know it wasnt her fault she kicked, she was just copying, but whatever the reason, I don't find it acceptable and surely its better for me to be consistent with her no matter who i am with and where we are??
I have never questioned what I do with DD and thought I was doing okish with raising her, but after being with someone who does not do anything when there DD is naughty really got me questioning what I do, I guess I would really really appreciate hearing how you discipline your children of a similar age? Its got me thinking maybe I am harsh doing time out? Is it cruel?
tia x
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How do you (thats if you do?) discipline your children? (2-3yo)
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hummingbird123 · 22/07/2007 16:28
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